My partner wants us to elope (go in front of a judge) and I want a small ceremony and reception (no more than 40 people). I'm having trouble finding a compromise. He grew up as Jehovah's witness and did not have birthday parties, celebrations, or christmas. He said he thinks he'd be very anxious being in the limelight with all eyes on him. I want to celebrate with my family and friends while keeping it low-key and budget friendly. I mentioned we could have a ceremony by ourselves and dinner with everyone after and he said no because what's the point if they can't see us get married (I tend to agree).
Any ideas on what would work for both of us? Has anyone else experienced this?