Ceremony questions

We are writing our own vows. I originally wasn't planning on doing a unity ceremony because I am not a fan of the candles or sand. I found a wine ceremony I like, so we will probably do that. Someone else posted this on WW at one point and I saved the link: https://a-wedding-in-paradise.com/wine-ceremonies/

We are writing our own vows but I'm not doing any unity ceremony other than that. I feel like the entire ceremony is a type of unity ceremony so didn't really see the need. Plus I will never display sand or a rope or anything so it would just collect dust somewhere away.

I just went to my FSIL’s wedding and they didn’t have a unity portion but it wasn’t any less beautiful. I’m planning on writing my own vows and we are going to do a handfasting as part of ours, which is sentimental for me. I would do whatever feels right for you, the ceremony in itself is unity!

No, I think vowing to spend my life with someone is uniting enough.

View Quoted Comment Exactly how I feel! Its not that it’s a ton of money but I feel like why waste it if it’s not going to truly mean anything. And I don’t want to have to dust one more thing lol!

I think it's fine not to do a unity thing. We're thinking of doing hand prints on a canvas, we'd actually display it though, but it's also super cheap if you go to a craft store!
Well probably write our own vows.

View Quoted Comment Same! Honestly, it's starting to feel like folks are doing craft projects up there. If that's your thing, that's cool, but we want the ceremony to be quick and sweet. We think it can still be meaningful with just vows and an exchange of rings.

We might write our own vows and that's it. The sooner we get this over with, the sooner we can party!

We're writing our own vows. As far as unity/ceremonial items, we're not doing anything like that. Our ceremony is going to be short, sweet and to the point

My pastor gave me this template he uses for weddings and I cut out so much of it, including the unity candle or sand aha. I felt like the rest of that stuff was religious fluff and on my wedding day I didn't want to hear all these sermons or hymns or prayers. So I ended up cutting it down to the meaningful and bare minimum. And we will be writing our own vows.