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Ceremony processional escort difficulties

Sarah, on May 3, 2018 at 10:23 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 6

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Hey everyone, I need some out of the box thinking here. I know there's no real right or wrong, but I'm hoping someone has a layout I haven't considered!

At our wedding, my fiance and I want our grandmothers and parents escorted to their seats at the very start of the ceremony. All in all those people are:
Bride's maternal grandmother
Bride's paternal grandmother
Grooms maternal grandmother
Bride's mother
Groom's mother

The difficulty comes in because in terms of male relatives available to escort: I have 1 brother, 8 maternal male cousins, and 0 paternal male cousins. (Also many female cousins on each side and many cousins-in-law.) Lots of uncles on each side.

My fiance has no brothers, 1 brother-in-law, 0 cousins.

My father will escort me down the aisle. And fiance's brother-in-law can escort fiance's grandmother... That's all I can make sense of!

Who escorts fiance's mother (her husband, my fiance)? Who escorts my grandmothers (cousin, cousin-in-law, uncle)? My mother (my brother)? Should my brother just make multiple loops for grandmothers?

Hopefully y'all can make sense of all of that... Please help!

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Latest activity by Ashley, on May 4, 2018 at 2:28 PM

Devoted May 2019
Christin · on May 3, 2018 at 10:30 PM
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Often I've seen the groom escort his own mother and even grandmother. The husband will usually walk off to the side or a pace behind the groom and his mother. As far as your family, if your fiance knows them well he could escort one or two of them and then your brother can escort the rest. If you're going to ask any men to play a particular role in the wedding without being in the bridal party, assisting with ushering would be a good place and they could do some of this escorting of guests of honor.
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Going to the chapel · on May 3, 2018 at 10:40 PM
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I would use this order: groom escorts his grandmother; your brother escorts his grandmothers one by one; groom escorts his mother; brother escorts your mother.
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Super December 2018
T P · on May 3, 2018 at 11:19 PM
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I would imagine that the ushers would escort the guest of honor to their seats, but it would not be inappropriate for you to ask your brother and other family members to escort your mothers and grandmothers.
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Devoted August 2018
Jillian · on May 4, 2018 at 1:15 AM
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I’m using extra groomsmen to escort my mom and the grandmothers. FH has 9 GM and I only have 5 BM, so I’m thinking the extra guys will escort my mom and the 3 grandmas.

Some people also just have the grandparents in their seats and not be escorted. I’m going to ask the grandmas what they want because some of them aren’t very mobile so might not want to walk that far in front of everyone.
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Savvy July 2018
Sarah · on May 4, 2018 at 8:40 AM
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Okay, I ran these past my fiance. He's worried about anyone having to go back to escort more than 1 person because of the layout of the venue (narrow aisle, and we're pushing capacity of the ceremony space). I do like the idea best of just having fiance and my brother alternating the escorting, but I'm not 100% sure it would work at our ceremony site.

And we don't have ushers at this time, weren't planning on asking anyone to usher, guests can find their own seats.

I had considered each groomsman escorting a grandparent or mother, but there are 4 groomsmen and 5 ladies that need escorts, which still doesn't add up. Maybe the 4 groomsmen escort grandmothers and mother of groom, then my brother escorts mother of the bride? And my fiance is just set up front? Or he enters alone? Or he escorts his own mother and my mother is escorted by the groomsman? But then my brother has no role in my wedding...
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Ashley · on May 4, 2018 at 2:28 PM
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Who is part of the wedding party on your FH's side?
I would try something like your brother escorts both your maternal and paternal grandmother together (one on each are) if they wish to be walked down. Your FH''s grandmother by your brother in law. Your FMIL with her husband and your Mom with one of the other groomsmen?
Just one idea 😃
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