Ceremony Debate

You should do what you and your FH want because it is your wedding. Have a serious conversation with the immediate family that seems to think it is their wedding and remind them it is yours. Also explain to them that elopement is still an option should you find yourselves unhappy/unsupported.

I wouldn’t. The only person you should have to compromise with when it comes to wedding planning is your FS.

I agree with PP. it’s your day and you should do what makes you and your FH happy.

I agree with everyone else! Your family can do what they want at their wedding but it’s not up to them to decide yours.

You compromise by not compromising and doing what the two of you want lol. You don’t want to look back and regret not doing it how you wanted to. Say you appreciate their opinions, but this is how you have decided to do it.

Are you anxious about the attention of a big circus? Is it a out cost? Why have the reception on a different date? If this is really a stress within your family, think about the things that are most important to you and them (big things) and see if you can work those out. The little things will fall into place. Feel grateful that your family is excited to be there. I feel awful for all of the brides on here that are being blown off, tormented, disrespected or abandoned by important people in their lives. It actually has made me feel really grateful for the people that are coming to our small destination wedding. His dad might flake which will be really hard on FH but I'm optimistic. Any small stressors are nothing considering what some of our wedding wire friends are dealing with. Congratulations on your engagement. It will all work out.

It's your wedding. Your day. Like others said, the only person you need to compromise with is your FH and that's it. If your families don't like it, well tough luck. Unless they're paying for your wedding, they don't get a say 🤷‍♀️

I wouldn't compromise. If we did that, I'd tell our parents that they could either come and celebrate with us the day we get married or not. But that's us lol It's your day, do things how you want to