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Ceremony and Reception Guest List Dilemma

Michelle, on September 14, 2019 at 6:28 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 7
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So my ceremony venue can only hold 72 people, and I have gotten my full guest list down to 84 people. Included in that 84, are 14 coworkers (that I felt like I had to invite). Being that we are not that close, what are everyone’s opinions if I just tell my job I didn’t have enough room for them at the ceremony, but they are invited to join us at the reception? I am definitely inviting the company owners to both ceremony & reception. But as the manager, I feel like this is the one time I can put my personal feelings towards them first and not invite them to the first event. Maybe that would deter them from going to the reception even? Haha help!!

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Latest activity by Jeanie, on September 16, 2019 at 3:19 AM
  • Kayla
    Dedicated October 2020
    Kayla ·
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    I think that if there are physical space restrictions then it is reasonable! Tell them it is important to you that they are there for your special day but your hands are tied with space at the ceremony venue. Hopefully they will understand!
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  • Courtney
    Master December 2019
    Courtney ·
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    If you bring it up to them honestly, you'd be surprised by who will understand.

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  • Z
    Devoted November 2019
    Zoe ·
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    I think you’ll have mixed answers on this but honestly if someone explained the situation to me I’d have no issue just going to the reception.
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  • earias
    Champion December 2017
    earias ·
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    No, this is considered rude, plus you need to invite the coworkers' spouses/SOs so it doesn't really help you. If you're not close to your coworkers then just don't invite them. Most people don't expect you to invite coworkers and if you do the general rule is to only invite those you hang out with socially outside of work.

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  • S
    Just Said Yes June 2022
    Sadie ·
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    I don’t think this would be rude at all. I would be flattered to be included in a co-workers reception. In fact, I’d be a little relieved I didn’t have to sit through a ceremony where I didn’t really know too many people.
    I will be making two sets of invitations for my wedding. One for people that will come to the ceremony, and one for people that will just come to the reception.
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    I wouldn't do this. That would be a tiered wedding, which is considered poor taste. The only time having a larger reception is okay is when the ceremony only includes immediate family!

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  • Jeanie
    Super February 2020
    Jeanie ·
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    I would just invite them. Your guest list is only 12 over capacity, and chances are that not everyone is going to be able to attend or will attend the ceremony. Unfortunately people skip ceremonies all the time, especially if they’re not where the reception is being held. If you don’t want to take that chance, I would just be up front with them about it and invite them to the reception only. If you do get no’s in your rsvps, you can always invite them later on to the ceremony.
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