I’m having a bit of an issue with my wedding planning lately. The location that I was supposed to be having my ceremony at flaked out the other day. They’d told me that once a vaccine came out for Covid, they would be able to book us for our fall 2021 wedding. I messaged them and the decided to go back on their word and are now not allowing us in.
I found a new location today that’s lovely. The only issue is that the last location was a half mile from our reception location, and it’s in a beautiful mountain town, so we were encouraging people to walk from the ceremony to reception. The new ceremony spot is a mile and a half from the reception. Not really within walking distance for people in heels and fancy clothes... My mom is now freaking out because she thinks we will need to spend thousands of dollars on buses to get people to the ceremony and then to the reception. We only have 70 people coming to our wedding, and we’ve laid out many options far in advance: one hotel we blocked rooms at has a free shuttle service that said they can bring guests to the ceremony and reception. There are car rentals and ubers. And additionally, there’s a free bus service in town and the buses are extremely clean. Is this really as big of an issue and my mom is making it out to be? With 2021 being a big wedding year, this was really my only alternative option for a ceremony location. And tbh, it doesn’t feel like that big of a deal. Am I wrong?
I do agree with your mom that you should provide some kind of transportation from your ceremony to reception if they are occuring back to back and a mile and half apart. But I disagree that it has to cost thousands of dollars. What about a school bus? Or provide some Uber codes and people can split Ubers? Or reach out to the hotel that most guests are staying in about the shuttle options? This shouldn't cost thousands of dollars, but likely a few hundred at most. Or, if the bus line you're referring to has a stop directly at your ceremony venue and the reception venue, then you could just ask the guests to take the bus. That being said, it would be helpful to know if this is a destination wedding or if most folks are local. I think that with a destination wedding, you'd have more responsibility to transport guests from point A to point B if ceremony and reception are in different locations.
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Yes, the bus line stops directly in front of the ceremony location and the reception location. I have an extensive website that explains all of the options too. It’s a destination wedding for my guests but the town itself it’s only a mile and a half long, so everything overall is walkable.
I can see her point but she indeed is freaking out over a very small issue. Couple of hundred at the most. The previous ladies hit on some great ideas. If I was in heals, I wouldn’t walk 1.5 miles- my feet would be killing me.
It’s only a mile snd a half. Transportation isn’t needed in this situation. Guests can certainly drive themselves 5 mins from the ceremony to the reception. That’s nothing at all!! So, that would be a huge waste of money on transportation for such a short trip. I mean, I’ve seen brides on here actually inquiring about venues that are 30+ minutes apart. Now that’s just too much. But I think if you have a cute little map on your invitation or website that pinpoints where the ceremony is and where the reception is, your guests will easily see that they’re extremely close together. Here’s an example I found:
Given the placement of the bus stops (and if the buses run frequently and are timely), then as I guest, I would be absolutely fine with taking the bus from your ceremony to reception. Maybe you can provide bus maps or even bus tickets in your hotel welcome bags (if you're doing them), since this is a destination wedding.
Couples have done this for decades or longer where the ceremony and reception are typically held in separate venues. Usually the ceremony is at a house of worship. If it isn't because the couple is nonreligious, then the ceremony is held at the reception venue. Which begs the question: is the ceremony venue a house of worship or a fancy event venue? Also unless they are 2 blocks apart, your guests should/will not be walking between them. You don't need to provide shuttle rentals as transportation is on the guests. Guests would prefer to drive themselves, assuming there is nearby parking, or catch an Uber/Lyft. While it is convenient, the majority will probably not take the city bus. Let your guests decide how to get to the reception.
DISCLAIMER: This comment is not written with attitude lol
It definitely wouldn't cost thousands of dollars BUT 1.5 miles is literally nothing. I would have assumed and been prepared to drive my own car for that distance. If I were you, I honestly wouldn't waste the money to spend on transportation. They can easily drive their own way or use the free bus option.