Center of attention??

I hate being the center of attention - especially in large groups. I get nervous, overstimulated, and cranky. I almost got livid when my mother told me that I better get used to "dancing in public" because I "have to" for the wedding. Made me want to cut all the music just to be obstinant. My approach was making a smaller guest list, shorter reception, and cutting out most of the traditions that force me to be the "spotlight."

Engineer like IT? Because my husband is one and he is the most extroverted person.

I'm never huge on being the center, but it never felt like a thing that day. It felt natural I guess. I was on the dance floor most of the night while my husband talked to ours guest. Everything went well and our guests had fun.

View Quoted Comment Software engineer. That's interesting! I think the typical stereotype is that they are more shy. I'm glad you had a great time!

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I know such a mixed back. I know those that are painfully shy and those like my husband. lol.

Just relax on the day. People are happy for you.

We were similar, but my DH is more introverted than me. We also had a church wedding followed by a formal reception with plated dinner and dancing. I think focusing on the guests and making sure you visit with them will take the pressure off you. It is a little bit like the advice people give you when you are sad - focus on making someone else happy and you won't feel sad anymore (or you'll forget about feeling sad for the moment). I know for both of us we were so happy to finally be married and really enjoyed having our friends and family there with lots of good food, open bar, great music with a live band, that we really didn't think about us being the center of attention.

I was nervous in front of his brothers and their wives for our engagement! And that was only four people! Ha! I am so nervous about our wedding and am hoping to elope for that reason alone!

My FH and I are the same way. I'm hoping to have a shorter reception for this reason - we don't really dance, and aren't into the traditional reception things (bouquet toss, garter, etc.

I am more of an introvert than he is, but we both do not love being the center of attention. We have never fast danced together in all the years we have been together. We are going to "the club" to make sure we don't look like it's our first time dancing together. Mine is in IT so I get what you mean in terms of personality! Lol!

When I'm at the center of attention I walk with confidence but the reality I'm self- conscious to be there the main reason to have in mind is for having fun and enjoy the moment this wedding planning takes a day at the time. Good luck and Many Blessings

We have a very cute talkative and outgoing flower girl. She currently likes to show anyone everything she has. So we are hoping she shows off some.

It seems really weird to me too so I told my partner we're making the tables in a U-shape or have to figure out a layout that allows my bridesmaids and his groomsmen to sit with us instead of those isolated tables I see for Mr & Mrs only. I think having people I'm so close to sitting with us and going for a more communal layout will help (all my bridesmaids are coming from out of state so it's another bonus having them sit with us before they fly out).

I remember playing games outside and spending time at a photo booth at a recent wedding where honestly I wasn't even keeping track of the newly wed couple the whole time. I think the couple intentionally had a variety of things for people to do (which helped lift the attention away from them). At another family wedding, the bride and groom didn't just stay at their table, they walked around the room to chat with people they haven't seen for a while instead of dancing the whole night.

There are definitely ways to reduce the attention on you so you can feel more calm