Skip to main content

Post content has been hidden

To unblock this content, please click here

K
Just Said Yes October 2019

Catholic/non-denominational ceremony

Kaylee, on July 6, 2019 at 11:29 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 8
I am hoping someone can give me insight into a couple of things regarding my upcoming wedding ceremony! First of all, I was raised baptist but now I would say non-denominational Christian and my fiancé and his entire family are Catholic. We are getting married in the Catholic Church. We’ve been told we will not have a Mass and the entire ceremony could be around just 30 minutes. (1) can someone explain maybe the flow of things and what I can expect at our ceremony? (2) our reception site is 30 minutes away. Some kinda make a face at the drive in between that’s even further out from where they’ll drive home to at the end of the night and then some say it’s no big deal at all. Ultimately, people have the option to come or not and it’s all booked so it is what it is... but is a 30 minute drive normal/reasonable? And (3) any advice for wording on wedding invitations, to let guests know it is not an hour long Catholic ceremony with a Mass? Like to communicate that it’s a short ceremony? Or is that not necessary? It’s something I am worried about some of our guests wondering about. But again, they can come or not! Smiley smile

8 Comments

Latest activity by Nicole, on July 17, 2019 at 10:28 PM
  • Catherine
    Dedicated November 2019
    Catherine ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    Check with the church’s office to see if they can give you the run down! My guess is there will be a reading or two, the priest will say his message and then vows and another blessing. Don’t worry about the drive to the venue form the Church! That’s not crazy far at all. I think it’s so special you’ll get to have a church ceremony (I’m not and kind of wish I was!) ...I have been worrying so much about inconveniencing guests in any way shape or form sooo I’m going to tell you what everyone keeps telling me- the day is about what you and your fiancé want! Stop worrying about everyone else! Have fun planning 😊Xoxo
    • Reply
  • D
    Super July 2020
    D ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    30 minute drive isn't unreasonable. A couple may duck out a bit early but it's not a big deal.
    • Reply
  • Anna
    Super April 2020
    Anna ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    Well since your not catholic, you cant have the full mass (hope that doesnr sound rude.) The mass is the communion. Without communion it's just a ceremony. So for a catholic getting married to a non catholic, its just 30 min ceremony. Just the readings and homily I believe. Itll still be a beautiful ceremony either way. Cause the other 30 minutes are all communion.
    • Reply
  • Kelly
    Super October 2019
    Kelly ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    Https://catholicweddinghelp.com/topics/order-wedding-outside-mass.htm

    Ask the priest for for a book on the readings. You can chose 4x readings for the short ceremony, I believe that the are: the first & second reading, the response, & the gospel.
    • Reply
  • C
    Master January 2019
    Cassidy ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    This is almost exactly what my wedding was like. My ceremony was about 24 minutes from the time the processional started until we exited the church. The ceremony will look very similar to a mass up until after the homily, which is when you will say your vows, do general intersessions, and then the recessional. Who ever is marring you should give you a book outlining the process and have your reading choices. There is no Gloria or profession of faith, there will be no communion. There is no need to indicate that it will not be a full mass on the invitation. If you have a website, you can probably put it there.
    Our drive was 25 minutes to the reception. It’s a little long, but what can you do. We got married in January and there was a threat of winter weather so that may have had an impact. But, we had several people leave after dinner or after dancing just a short while. All our guests had to go the opposite way to get home as well, and most was an hr+ back home. By the time we left at 8:45 only our parents, siblings, and bridal
    party were left. It was supposed to end at 9.
    • Reply
  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    The church should have a basic timeline to give you.
    30 minutes is probably the furthest you could get people to drive between locations.
    • Reply
  • S
    Dedicated February 2020
    Stephnie ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment
    Actually you can have a mass in your wedding if you are not Catholic but your spouse is. It is up to your Parish and if they allow it, you can choose to have mass or not.

    • Reply
  • Nicole
    Super October 2021
    Nicole ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    So my venue is always 30 mins away and it IS a full 1 hour catholic mass. LOL oh well its how we want to have our day go.


    I don't think you need to tell people the length of the ceremony. If you're having a cocktail hour they should be able to put the timing together.

    • Reply

You voted for . Add a comment 👇

×

Related articles

WeddingWire celebrates love ...and so does everyone on our site! Learn more

Groups

WeddingWire article topics