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Just Said Yes September 2020

Catholic Wedding

Courtney, on January 8, 2020 at 8:36 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 6

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Hey guys!
So both my fiancé and I are Catholic, as well as both of our families. It is very important to my grandparents and my fiancé’s parents to be married Catholic.
We we’re going to have our wedding in 2 years but John just found out he has to deploy to Iraq in 9 months. We want to get married before he goes, and have a wedding when he gets back. Can we get married in a courthouse and still have it be considered catholic? What do we have to do? Does anyone know the steps? I’m thinking we can get married/ do the paperwork at the courthouse and then head to the church to have the priest bless us etc. but I’m not sure what the proper steps are. And .... we want to do this soon, in the coming weeks. Lol. Ah!
Thank you!! Xx

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Latest activity by Jade, on January 9, 2020 at 2:21 PM

Just Said Yes September 2020
Courtney · on January 8, 2020 at 8:38 PM
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**we were going to have our wedding.
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Super April 2020
Anna · on January 8, 2020 at 8:49 PM
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You actually can. I know many couples who have done this. What the process is, i don't know about this. You should ask your parish what has to happen. There's no harm in asking. I know i'm in no position to suggest but how come you just don't get married in the catholic church before he leaves? Many brides have been able to do it in less than 9 months. Just a suggestion. But I hope you comment back to know what they told you. Also to help other brides in your situation.
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Dedicated October 2020
Mary · on January 8, 2020 at 9:01 PM
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In order for a wedding to be considered valid and holy in the Catholic church, it must be performed in a Catholic church, and you must do the necessary prep and paperwork, with your home parish. This usually requires 6 months notice. If you start now, you should have enough time to get everything done and set up before your fiance has to deploy.

You also have the option to get civilly married (aka courthouse wedding), and then do a convalidation ceremony to get your union "blessed" by the Catholic church later. There is no time limit to this, but like a sacramental wedding, you still need to do the prep and paperwork.
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Savvy November 2022
Nathalie · on January 8, 2020 at 9:32 PM
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Well, it all depends on your parish. they can get you married in less than 6 months only if you or your family are friends with a priest, this happen to a family member of mines.

Option 1) a priest can officiate both civil marriage and the rite of matrimony, so you can have One big wedding now.

Option 2) you can get two weddings, a small civil ceremony now, and when he comes back, have the big religious wedding of your dreams.
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Sharon · on January 8, 2020 at 11:25 PM
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You can do a Catholic church wedding in just a few weeks if need be. We did it in about 5 or 6 weeks. Talk to a priest as soon as possible to find out what exactly needs to be done. You'll have to do pre-cana, get your marriage license, etc. The priest will have to contact the diocese and get special permission to do it in less than 6 months but that shouldn't be a problem. As the previous person said if you do a courthouse ceremony now then the church ceremony will be a convalidation. Whatever you decide you can still do a big celebration later as you were planning. It's more common than I realized and that's what we're doing.
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Expert November 2021
Jade · on January 9, 2020 at 2:21 PM
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I second that you should talk to your priest. My sisters husband found out he was getting deployed a month before when their wedding was supposed to be so they had to move the date up 6 months and the church was very helpful and really worked with them!
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