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Just Said Yes September 2020

Catholic wedding help - covid

Nancy, on August 12, 2020 at 2:05 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 11
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Hi all, I would love some advice on my situation. Our original date is in 4 weeks from today. (2nd week of September) initially we planned to have our catholic wedding and go to a venue afterwards with upwards of 150 guests. However, due to COVID, we postponed our wedding. The father of the church recently called to let us know that he can still marry us on the same date in the church, but we’ll just have an intimate small ceremony with about 15 guests at most. No music, no mass. Then 6-12 months (if Covid permits) from that date we can hold our “big wedding” with everyone and I can walk down the isle & the whole shebang with a venue as well, but it would be considered a renewal of vows. My question is, have you heard of anything like this? What are your thoughts? I’m having mixed feelings as I definitely want to get married already but would it be kind of weird walking down the isle so to speak for the second time & what would we even put on our invitations for the second party?

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Latest activity by Jessie, on August 15, 2020 at 6:53 PM
  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    I've heard of many people doing this, especially this year, where they do a mini ceremony on their original date, and then postpone their larger celebration to a later date. You could call it a vow renewal, or a wedding reception, or a sequel wedding. It's totally up to you whether you want to do a ceremony this year or not - my fiance and I decided to postpone everything to a later date, though many other people are doing a ceremony on both their original date and their postponed date. If your original date has a special meaning to you and your fiance, you could consider doing a small ceremony this year, and the larger reception next year. Otherwise, you could postpone everything. Talk to your fiance and decide what would work best for both of you.
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    Devoted October 2021
    Adrienne ·
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    We are doing something like this, we will have our minimony on our original date and only invite immediate family/closest friends, for a total of 15 people. The ceremony itself can be as grand or small as you want - like I will still be wearing my dress, as will my BMs, FH and groomsmen will wear coordinating suits with matching ties and pocketsquares, we will have our bouquets and guys will have boutonnieres. We will do the full ceremony and then have dinner at FILs' house. Next year, we will have essentially the same ceremony so our full family and friends can see and then go have the big reception at our venue. Everyone who is doing a minimony approaches it differently, so definitely pick what works for you. But if you want to get married right away, definitely do something like this!

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  • Leanne
    Super September 2020
    Leanne ·
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    Lots of couples on here are doing that, but for me personally I didn’t like the idea of a ceremony later after I’m already married. Seems odd (to me, I understand some people want to!) We postponed our April wedding to this September, and moving forward with a 50 person guest list.
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  • Laura
    Super September 2020
    Laura ·
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    You can still walk down the aisle at the second one... Look up Marriage Blessing. I love the idea!!!
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  • Jessica
    Savvy February 2021
    Jessica ·
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    If things are still like this in a couple of months, that's precisely what I'm doing! My cousin also just did the same thing last month, as did some friends of mine in the spring. You're certainly not alone. Guests will be understanding even if it seems a little odd because we're all in the same boat with COVID. What matters most is getting married and the full celebration will always be fun even if it's delayed Smiley smile On the invites, you'd probably call it a renewal of vows and reception, though you could probably be creative with the wording. Yeah, it's a little weird, but everything is weird right now with COVID. Talk to your fiance and if you really just want to get married, get married! Everyone that I've seen do this hasn't regretted it at all Smiley smile
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    Just Said Yes September 2020
    Nancy ·
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    Also, forgot to ask - would you all recommend wearing the same dress you initially were going to wear or a different one?
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  • Dtzdance
    Dedicated October 2021
    Dtzdance ·
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    We are in the same boat! We were going to have the celebration in September, but now delayed until next fall. We are only having 6 people at this year's ceremony. I just posted the postponement on our website and contacted everyone who already RSVPed to let them know. There has been so much that has happened outside of COVID this year for me that not having a full ceremony and reception is one less thing I do not have to worry about😀 I got a gown I could wear again in my favorite color. It is simple so now I am looking for accessories to jazz it up including a matching mask😷
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  • Jessica
    Savvy February 2021
    Jessica ·
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    I'll personally probably wear the same dress as I very much like it and will be happy to wear it twice! It comes down to comfort and preference though I think.
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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
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    Totally up to you Nancy! I'd leap at the chance to wear my wedding dress twice, but if you'd rather get a 2nd dress you can do that too! Smiley heart

    Several brides shared what they've decided in this discussion you should check out: Still getting married on your date? Will you wear your wedding dress?

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  • Nicole
    Super August 2020
    Nicole ·
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    We were also suppose to get married in a Catholic Church, but decided to have a small ceremony at a park where I technically still “walked down the aisle.” We thought it would be weird to have a church wedding even though we’re already married, but due to covid this is definitely the new norm and tons of couples are getting married twice. I like to look at it as a blessing that we get to celebrate twice, it was definitely fun planning two different types of weddings
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  • J
    Savvy December 2021
    Jessie ·
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    I would just invite them to your wedding sequel it is a huge thing right now. I would love a vow renewal where I could walk down the ailse in my dress and such in front of all our guests. My Preist won't allow us to walk down the ailse and have our bridal party with us and such if we do a vow renewal which makes me feel stupid to have my dress and veil on then. I feel so torn.
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