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Just Said Yes November 2020

Catholic Marrying Non...advice

Kelly, on January 20, 2020 at 6:49 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 1 10

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Hello all! The love of my life and I are getting married November 7 of this year! I am so excited and plans are really starting to come together. My fiancé is catholic, and I am not. I respect him and his religion, but it’s just not what I believe in and he respects that as well. Because of this we obviously can’t get married in a cathedral and have a traditional Catholic wedding. He is perfectly okay with it, however I feel like we should add something of his religion into the ceremony. He doesn’t know I’m trying to do this so I obviously can’t ask him. 🤫 Does anyone have any advice on something traditional we could do? I’ve tried googling it but I felt like real life experience was better. Thanks in advance !

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Latest activity by Anna, on January 21, 2020 at 2:01 PM

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Jessica · on January 20, 2020 at 6:51 PM
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I am Jewish and my ex husband was catholic, so we got married outside at our reception venue. My dad wanted his Tallis (a sort of shawl that Jewish men wear) there but I didn’t want to start bringing religion into it. We ended up having it wrapped into the flowers in the pergola so it was secretly there. He could carry a cross in his pocket, anything simple works. Sweet of you to do this.
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Sexypoodle · on January 20, 2020 at 6:58 PM
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Although this isn’t specifically Catholic, something simple to do is a unity ceremony with a “cord of 3 strands”. You can braid the 3 cords during the ceremony.
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Sexypoodle · on January 20, 2020 at 7:01 PM
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My thought would be to use cross version as opposed to just the 3 cords.
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Alma · on January 20, 2020 at 7:19 PM
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There are actually officiants who specialize in personalizing your wedding, whether one of you is religious and the other one isn’t. You should look into that
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Just Said Yes November 2020
Kelly · on January 20, 2020 at 7:35 PM
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That’s a great idea! Thank you!
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Shelly · on January 20, 2020 at 8:01 PM
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My husband's family is Catholic and attended the same church every Sun. I was raised Protestant, but, didn't attend church. We had no trouble getting married in their Catholic church. We met with the Priest and attended pre-cana classes. Instead of a Catholic wedding mass, we chose a wedding ceremony (no communion or Alter boy and shorter) since my side were mostly Protestant.
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Sarah · on January 20, 2020 at 8:05 PM
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This. I am not catholic, was raised Presbyterian and we are having no trouble getting married in the church. We are also doing the ceremony and not the wedding mass for the exact same reasons.
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Laura · on January 20, 2020 at 8:12 PM
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We got married in the Catholic church; I'm not Catholic. Things that are of that faiths weddings are roses to the mothers. A special rosary ... His priest and family would appreciate that - even as gifts. Anything related to Mother Mary. You can also look up Catholic wedding music.
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Maria · on January 21, 2020 at 9:53 AM
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My husband is not Catholic but we were able to have a Catholic wedding (not a full mass). If you were going to get married in a Catholic church you would need to start on marriage prep ASAP. It sounds like you might already have plans underway at another venue though so my suggestions to add "Catholic" elements would be including Catholic readings, prayers, or songs to your ceremony.
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Anna · on January 21, 2020 at 2:01 PM
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If you wanted to marry in the church you could still do so. They marry Catholics to non-Catholics all the time. If you want to simply incorporate religious elements into your ceremony elsewhere I would simply ensure the officiant you hire has a religious background and can incorporate some of that into the ceremony.
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