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Just Said Yes February 2022

Catholic & Jewish Marriage Ceremony

Melissa, on January 13, 2021 at 7:17 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 11
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Hi everyone!

Congratulations to all the engaged couples! I have some questions for you all, that I am hoping you can help me with. I am a practicing Catholic, and my fiancé is Jewish. We both feel very strongly about getting married outside, in front of all our family and friends. We are getting married at a beautiful resort in Vermont. We feel getting married outside, on the resort, overlooking the mountains and lakes is a perfect place for us to get married. On the other hand, I want the Catholic faith to see us as married, but I want my fiancé's family to be comfortable with our ceremony as well. I have been researching this, and I am reading if I do not get married in the Catholic Church, I am committing a sin. Are there any other inter-faith couples out there that can shed some light into this situation? Or any fellow Catholics to offer some advice? Thank you all so much! Enjoy your engagement Smiley smile

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  • Meghan
    Devoted September 2021
    Meghan ·
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    I am catholic and am getting married at our venue outdoors. We’re also having a pastor do the ceremony because my FH father went to his church. Neither of us are that religion but it means a lot to my FH as his parents are no longer with us. I am religious but do not feel as if I’m doing a sin because I’m doing something that makes me and my fiancé happy. My mother is Greek Orthodox and I do plan on incorporating the crowns that is done in a Greek ceremony. It’ll be multiple religions and that’s okay because that’s who WE ARE ♥️.



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  • Melissa
    Just Said Yes February 2022
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    Thank you Meghan!! I appreciate your comment. How did you get the Pastor to okay an outdoor wedding? Is there something you had to do?
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  • C
    Master January 2019
    Cassidy ·
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    Check with your priest. He will be able to give you guidance. Mine was willling to work with us, but we ended up just getting married in the church. I do know people that have gotten married outside who are catholic.
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  • Meghan
    Devoted September 2021
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    To be honest I’m unsure if he typically does outdoors or if he did it because he’s close to the family. I know my friend had to call around to find a priest who would marry them outside.
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  • Katie
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    Hi Melissa! I am Catholic as well, husband Presbyterian, and my family ancestry is Greek Orthodox. We definitely incorporated each religion and felt like “us”, getting the best of all worlds! I have read Catholics only wed in a church to protect the bride as back in the day many men were secretly marrying several women in the woods. It was a way to keep it honest. We married under the Presbyterian pastor, which had no outdoor preference. In the current climate, hopefully priests can accommodate, but may be tricky. Even though we are not Jewish, we married under a chuppah because they are so beautiful! We did the unity candle, which is Catholic and the crowns for Greek Orthodox. Pictures attached for fun 🌸❤️🌺Catholic & Jewish Marriage Ceremony 1
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  • Hanna
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    Are you wanting to just have a Catholic wedding, or an interfaith wedding with both a pastor and a rabbi together? I'm Jewish and I've been to several interfaith Catholic/Jewish weddings, and they were all outdoors or at a non-religious venue. If you're planning to have an interfaith wedding then presumably the priest/pastor and the rabbi would want to work together to help the two of you make this decision. But if you want your fiance's family to be comfortable, then I would suggest not having the ceremony in a church as a compromise (unless your fiance will be converting, then that's another story).

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  • Samantha
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    If you want to have a priest marry you there are certain things they require, and one of them is to be married by a priest in a catholic church. Priests vary, but it will probably be hard to find one to marry you outside of a church and if you don’t agree to raise any children as Catholic.


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  • Melissa
    Just Said Yes February 2022
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    Thank you! Pictures are beautiful!
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  • Katie
    Expert August 2020
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    Thank you and good luck with your wedding ❤️❤️❤️
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  • J
    Dedicated August 2021
    Jillian ·
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    Same situation here! Though the religious aspects were more important to our families than to us. In general, you can get dispensation from your priest to get married outside of the church. Sometimes the bishop of the region has certain rules (i.e. in our region, we had to agree to raise our children as Catholic, which we weren't willing to do so we had to back out), and you and your FH will most likely have to do pre-cana, but it otherwise shouldn't be too difficult. Just talk to your church about the process.

    Another option is to use a Catholic chaplain. They tend to have more experience with interfaith couples.

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  • Brianna
    Dedicated October 2022
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    Similar situation here, so I've been researching. If you get married outside of a church, it is NOT a sin. It just technically isn't considered completing the sacrament of marriage. Talk to your priest and rabbi and see what they say. If neither will budge, take comfort in this: God will never look down on you for choosing love.

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