catholic brides- living together?

My first marriage, I couldn't get married in my church because I had gotten pregnant during our engagement. They actually cancelled my reservation. But that was 22 years ago, and it depends on how strict your church is.

I've been living with my FH for about 2.5 years. Our priest didn't have a problem with it. The only thing he asked was if we had a common law marriage cause it would interfere with the paperwork to get us legally married somehow.

Do you know your priest? You can usually tell whether they are very strict or not

Thanks! I don't know this priest very well but I know that he is pretty strict, which is why I'm worried!

Ours didn't even ask. It all depends on the priest and parish.

I just remembered the book that we used for our pre-marriage classes included chapters for couples that were previously married/have children/are living together. I wonder if all Catholic parishes use the same book?

It all depends on the priest. Most of them won't be thrilled about it but won't say too much, especially if you're older (late 20s and beyond).

If he is "strict", you'll probably get some feedback about the Church's position on sex outside marriage (see JPII's "Theology of the Body"). He will likely encourage you to abstain and potentially ask you to "live separately" (translation: not share a bedroom) until the wedding.

ULTIMATELY, the decision will be up to you... but expect "input"

We are getting married in the catholic church and have been living together. We have a 3 year old son together. Our priest didnt have an issue with it.

I have been living with my FH for about 3 yrs now…I grew up in a very strict catholic home… My Parents are not happy what soo everrr. I am not getting married at the church by a priest my priest is very strict!!!

I'd try not to worry about it so much. If he asks, don't lie. If he does, and he won't marry you, then you know you need to find another church.

The pastor at the Church I wanted to get married at said he wouldn't marry us unless we lived apart for some period of time leading up to the wedding which wasn't feasible. However he allowed us to still get married at that Church (which is the Church I grew up in and is important to me) if we found another priest who was alright with our situation. So I simply asked the priest who had done my friend's Catholic wedding a couple year's prior even though she and her then fiancé were living together if he would marry us and he was okay with it. He did say ideally you'd meet, date, fall in love, get married then live together but sometimes it happened in a different order and what mattered was us making it right by actually getting married.

Do you know of any other couples who got married/are getting married by that same priest and have been living together? If so, I would check with them and see. Like other people have said though, it seems to really depend on the priest. I know a couple who was living together through their engagement and they told the priest they've been living together. He was nice about it and explained he understands that it's more common now-a-days, although the church does not favour it. He still married them and there were no issues. My FH and I are Catholic, and although we've been wanting to live together before getting married, it just doesn't look like it's going to happen until we're married (due to no luck house hunting and other circumstances).

Our priest never actually asked. I did use my parents address though when filling out the initial form.