Catering Panic - Continued

So for any lovelies that gave me previous advice on my catering woes it hasn’t been resolved and it’s getting worse. So mini vent because I feel like I’ve lost control of my wedding and I have no one to turn to.

Caterer finally got back to me - he didn’t answer my questions only said his NEXT email would contain an invoice for the billed hours above their hours.

My mom is no help. She keeps telling me it’s one day and acts like my wedding is no big deal - but still gushes over her Hawaii renewals in October that I can’t attend. She says her and my dad would be happy with In N Out...

I turned to my FH and another dead end. He was ecstatic over the prospect of dropping out catering and now is obsessed over finding an alternative to save money - I get it the catering is the most expensive part of the wedding is catering. It’s be awesome to pool that money to a trip for the two of us but it’s not like we’re hurting for money. I think what irks me is that he is pushing and insisting on dropping the caterer now and even started calling around to get quotes, I mean fine now our best option is delivered BBQ which is an improvement but he wants to ask his best man to bartend for an hour for self serve drinks. And then have other people in the wedding do the same because he says his family won’t care and keeps making jabs about how our wedding is already nicer than his siblings so it won’t matter at all, and they’ll prefer the cheaper BBQ. Again. I’m not trying to be a brat and I get it’s one day, it’s just a wedding, it’s a lot of money, the money would be great for a trip.. it’s the way everyone is going against the hard work I’ve put in by myself the past year to get killer deals and make my budget work for a nice, small wedding with our closest family and friends. It’s that I don’t feel loved or supported from anyone and I just feel so defeated. Regardless of what my caterer has to say I’m already team FH for this new catering plan just to make everyone happy and not resent me for just wanting one nice day. At a lost, miserable and not looking forward to any of it. I want to be married to him but I’m up for ditching everything scraping my deposits and going to the courthouse.