Casual Wedding, not-so-casual family

I’d say let your marriage reflect who you are. 99% of people aren’t limo people. It’s just one day. Let your self be spoiled/pampered and have the king/queen treatment on your wedding day. It’s not a big deals you could have worse problems. Enjoy it!

How is it offensive to say no? You’re allowed to say you don’t want it. Maybe ask them to put that money into other areas of the wedding that is more you. Like decor or venue?

Just be careful accepting money, it usually comes with strings. Why don’t you & your fiancé take some time to enjoy being engaged and plan the wedding you both want?

View Quoted Comment Great way of looking at it. And we definitely could be having worse issues. Thanks!

View Quoted Comment Definitely being cautious of it. All things considered we have definitely been enjoying it and spending time planning it, we made a lot of the decisions just us. We're super excited, and just want to make sure it's what we want while also keeping our families excited as well.

View Quoted Comment They have been excited about the decorations so I'm hoping if I emphasize that enough that it'll stop them from trying to add a bunch of stuff we don't need haha.

I think you both need to sit down right now and have a conversation with your in-laws and first decline the limo and to let them know that you both have the wedding that you envision and you want to keep with those plans. I think you need to nicely put your foot down now otherwise it can easily spiral out of control and I see bright on here often stress that their wedding is turning into something that it is not that they have wanted. You don't have to be rude about it but you need to start putting that feed and they're mine now so they don't start planning more things that you don't want. And ask pirate price said do not accept any money as that means they are going to feel they have control. If they really want to do something their way then maybe they can host a rehearsal dinner or host a shower.

As long as you're polite when you decline their offer, I don't see the problem. Be sure to thank them for their generosity and then just explain that though you're grateful, you're planning to go in another direction. You don't need to share details of the wedding with them, just say that you want them to be surprised.

I mean a Limo isnt terrible unless you absolutely don't want it why not ride in style for this once in a lifetime affair. Just make sure that you guys keep your vision along the way. Theres no reason to decline help if it's unwanted but dont be unrealistic that they are just super happy for you guys .

Is there a different car that's more your vibe that would be cool to be picked up in? Maybe something vintage or more fitting to your personalities - that way you can frame it as a spin more than decline.

I would tell them you are you FH have a specific vision for your wedding day and them explain to them what you have in mind.

It's your wedding follow your heart

It is not a timeshare, it is a wedding. If every time she wants something you don't want, she offers to pay , with no regard to the fact you just, plain, don't want it, pretty soon she will have bought rights to 40/52 of your wedding. It won't feel like yours, or even mostly yours. Be a little flexible, things you don't much care either way, but don't take money for what you do not want. And watch the mounting total. Because if as time goes on toward actual invitation time, they decide they want 20 more people of theirs, and that would mean a mess, or cutting 10 couples of your friends, you do not want to hear, well we paid half the money going into this wedding, and think we should get at least 40 guests of our choosing. Or whatever.