Cash

It's usually considered rude to ask outright, but if you have no registry, some people will take the hint and give you a check. Be warned though, others will buy you household items anyway.

People know cash is a good gift. Just don't register and 90% of people will get the hint. If they ask, you can just say that you have everything you need but are saving up for a new home or a renovation or whatever, pointing to cash being much appreciated.

This varies significantly depending on where you live, your cultural norms etc etc.

Here in Australia, cash gifts are incredibly common and we actually mention them in our invitation suites as we will always include a 'gifts' section which either provides registry details or includes a poem indicating the couple is having a wishing well (monetary gifts). This practice is something that is frowned upon heavily according to American etiquette but here no one takes issue with it and it is the norm.

By contrast, from what I have gathered from American contributors to these forums is that the majority view it as something that should not be specifically addressed and to leave it to your guests to give cash if they want to, but that this can be implied in part by not creating a registry.

Yes, by not creating a registry, people will know to give a monetary gift. Also your people can pass the information word of mouth when asked if you're registered. They can just say "no, but they're saving for....".

We’re going to put on our website where people will rsvp a polite version of “we have no more space for household items, but would be appreciative of any monetary gifts given as (blank) is our next endeavor/adventure as newlyweds if you would like to help us get there”


Most people I think just give money anyway and I feel we should be past people thinking it’s rude to prefer money

In my experience the registry is usually for a bridal shower.


Are you having a bridal shower? If not, then I don’t see the need to create a registry.

Another option would be to “register” at honey fund.com

My fiancé and I created a Honeyfund. We’ve already been living together for over 3 years, and honestly don’t have room for anything house hold wise. So on our wedding website under the Registry page, we said something like “we’re fortunate to have everything we need for our home already, but if you would like to give us a gift we have a Honeyfund set up for our honeymoon” and then I linked the Honeyfund.

On our wedding website under registry, we simply put a cash fund with a message saying "Your presence at our wedding is gift enough. If you feel the need to be generous, please consider contributing to a down payment on our future home. We look forward to purchasing our first home together to host all of our friends and family in!" Since we have been renting a home together for almost 6 years!! The last thing I need is more STUFF. I hope people understand :-)

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That is a great idea. I already have a home and we really don't need more stuff to add to it. We are however going to purchase a home in another state and a monetary donation would be more acceptable than another household gift we don't need.