cash vs gifts

Create a small registry of upgrades if you are having a bridal shower.

If you don't want a shower just don't register anywhere. People will get the hint if you don't have a registry.

Pinterest has good ideas on how to word that, cash is what a lot of couples want and some people would rather give cash or a gift card then get an actual gift. I would still make a small registry list for those who don't feel comfortable just giving money.

Definitely don't make any cute poems or things from Pinterest. Those things are so cringeworthy!!!

There is no tactful way to say "hey gimmeeee money." I preferred an actual registry and we created a pretty decent one at two stores. And guess what? I still got a nice chunk of money at my shower. People will still give money because some people just find it easier. You don't need to tell them to do so.

Deposit slips in lieu of RSVP cards, that's the only way to do it.

Everything PPs said here.

There is no good way to ask for cash ever. Most people will show up with envelopes anyway.

Don't have a registry or have a very very small one. No shower etc.

@Beachy- be careful when you say "Everything PPs said here. "

That means you are agreeing with the pp who thinks that a poem corrects a breach of etiquette.

@Casey- no, just no. You don't ask for cash, ever. People are not stupid. They will figure out that couples who are combining households don't need another toaster. If there's no registry, guests will give cash. Yes, there may be that person who insists on giving some odd physical gift, but they would do that anyway, with or without a registry.

Casey, no.

There is no tactful way. Sometimes it is assumed that if you don't do a registry people will assume you don't want "stuff". That is the best advice I can give.

FH and I have all the "stuff" we need and want so we did not do a registry. Who knows what will happen...

Don't listen to Casey

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Oh boy, no Pinterest poems or signs asking for money. Those are horribly tacky. I agree with no registry (unless you are having a shower, then you need one). However, please recognize that some people prefer to give physical gifts and don't like to give money. That is ok - a gift is up to the giver, not you. Your only job is to be grateful.

Don't ask and don't listen to the one response that tells you it's a great idea.

There is no cute way to ask people for money; most of them are planning to do that anyway because it's really the easiest thing to do.

Everytime someone uses a cutesy poem to panhandle, a poet dies a bit inside and has an existential crisis.

@Jay lol I think the same thing

I just didn't register. I know his cousin has a HUGE box sitting in her dining room for us. People will still buy gifts, but also get the idea with little to no registry.

We have been to 6 weddings in the last 18 month and all have done the honeyfund thing. A couple had a small registry with it but honestly 100% on board with not doing registry if you really don't need or want things.

I would say dont just ask for cash but no registry makes that simple.

I'm also not sure how asking for specific things vs asking for cash is all that different. I really feel as people wait until they are older to get married registry type things are going to go away. We are going with honeyfund and 90% of the people we know are fine with it.

Ok, got the point. thanks everyone.

Word of mouth. Have your family members spread the word when asked about a registry.

Generally a small registry will get the point across.

If you don't need ANYTHING, then just enjoy the presence of your friends and family. When people ask about your registry, just say, "We really don't need a thing, but thank you for asking. We're looking forward to celebrating with you!"