Cash Registry - How do they work and Is it tacky?

Delete this thread FAST!!!! Do whatever you want to do with cash registries just don't post it on here! You will get devoured.

It's always in poor taste to ask for money in any way, shape, or form. Regardless of the event. The only way it is generally considered acceptable is if someone else spreads it by word of mouth. For example, someone asks a bridesmaid or FMIL,etc. where you're registered. She can say "They're registered at (whatever stores) but there is not much on there since they're looking to buy a new home" etc.

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Yep, that's a touchy subject on here...you'll get a buttload of negative feedback! Also, you might want to change your avatar/profile pic to something else besides the double rings. It makes you look like a spammer...they use those a lot.

I do know many people who have done the cash online registry thing, though. Also, they have a new honeymoon registry, where you can enter your honeymoon destination, hotel and all that, and people can put money directly towards that. That may be something to think about!

Although neither of us has been married before, my fiance and I already have everything we need. (I'm 35, so I'm on my second set of a lot of my household items!) We sat down and tried to think of what we'd put on a registry, and we couldn't think of anything. So on our wedding website, the "Registry" page says that we do not have a registry and joining us to celebrate our marriage is your gift to us.

You could do something similar.... basically, say, "No gifts, please!"

It is our first (and hopefully last) marriage. We have lived together for a while and don't need any household stuff, so we are thinking of doing a honeymoon registry.

If you don't want to do a "Cash" registry, you can make a tiny regular registry (maybe some super awesome sheets you would never buy on your own?) and then that's it. If people don't want to buy off the registry, usually they will have a card with cash in it and bring it to the wedding. I wouldn't "ask" for money itself, but if there aren't many options people usually get the picture.

You don't need a registry for cash... If people want to give you cash, they will. You don't need a third party company to handle it, they'll just take a cut

No. No. No. Think about it - how do you register for cash "I want 15 $50 bills, 27 $5 dollar bills and 6 antiquated $2 bills" that is ridiculous. To make it worse, should you do this then - aunt Hildegard gives you and FH $50 buuuutttt the site takes a cut so you are actually getting $47.50...that is also ridiculous. So No, there is no good reason or situation that this would be acceptable. Register for upgrades or not at all, people do not need to be told that cash is a good gift.

A friend of mine put "in lieu of gifts, the couple will have a money tree at the reception" on the insert card with the invites. It made me think of how people would probably devour that here, but honestly, it didn't bug me since I was planning on giving them cash anyways. It's a touchy subject.

Honestly, I don't get the point of cash registries....if you just don't register for anything, then those over acheivers can go out and look for a gift for you, but the majority will just give cash anyways. I would say it's better to not register for anything.

For me, I registered at Macy's, but just for our shower. I put it on my website it was included in the shower invite, but not the normal wedding invite. If people wanted to look for a gift they would have to go to our website and go from there. We booked our honeymoon through AAA and they sent me registry type cards, however a registry wasn't set up, they were cards saying if anyone wanted to contribute to the honeymoon you had to reach out directly to my agent, so you get the full amount. Since they sent them to me we included those with the shower invites too, however the deadline was due this past Monday and my shower is next weekend, only one person opted to contribute to it. So, all in all it wasn't really worth sending them out anyways.

I don't think there is a way to say monetary gifts only without sounding rude.

It is tacky to ask for cash. Don't do it. I will take it a step further and say that making it clear that you expect gifts for a second wedding feels kind of yucky to me, too, depending on when/how the first one played out. Mine was my second, his first. Most of the guests on my side had bought gifts for me 9 years ago at my first wedding. There was no way I felt comfortable with asking them to do it a second time for a bride and groom who are 36 and 43 and own two houses. We had NO GIFTS on our website. People still brought them, though, and most of them were cash. That, or lovely heartfelt gifts of fancy spices and good wine...we are foodies. Most people know that cash is always appreciated. They don't need to be told.

Dont do a cash registry, yes its tacky and not a good idea

Yes, it's tacky. Don't do it. If it's your second marriage, just don't register, don't have bridal shower. It's fine.

Very few people marry straight out of their parents home anymore-- almost everyone 'has everything they need'-- the doesn't change that it's tacky to ask for money.

I agree with most everyone, cash registries are tacky to me. FW and I were talking about this the other night. We've been living together and have pretty much accumulated everything we need either via my parents generosity, inherited furniture or our own purchases. We both decided we're going to do something similar to what Sarah said registering for things we wouldn't normally purchase. For the FW she is adamant that she will be registering for Xbox and Playstation games which is fine because we both game. For me, I want a new bed set for our spare room and candles.

Just register at one store only and have fun with it!

Yes, it is tacky.

And please don't listen to Promike. "Do whatever you want" is NOT helpful. You are asking for feedback and people will give you honest opinions. The reason the responses to this topic tend to be "negative" is because most people - including many of your guests - believe that asking for money is rude.

Please do not do this. It is so inappropriate to ask for money. If you have everything you need, that's great. However, that does not mean you can reach in your guests wallet. We have everything as well, but still registered. We are updating our linens and some small appliances.

Think about this a moment. The purpose of a registry is to let your guests know what you'd like. Your guests already know you'd like cash, because everyone does. Thus, there is no purpose to having a cash registry. If there is no purpose, it will offend many of your guests, and it will result in your losing the cash that goes into fees, why do it?

People know they can give money as a wedding gift, they don't need to be asked.

We decided to do a honeymoon registry. On our website we simply wrote "We feel very fortunate to already have the things we need in our home. In light of that we have chosen to do a honeymoon registry in lieu of a traditional gift registry. Please visit our site on Wanderable if you would like to contribute." I think people like the idea of giving you a "gift" of some kind. So maybe set up a registry for home renovations or some other project they can contribute. Or as everyone else said, say nothing. A lot of people will just give you money anyways. Although you may get a lot of serving bowls :-)