Cash Bar wording

Personally I think you should host at least beer and wine at any scheduled events. Since the BBQ and after party are scheduled, you should host.

If the after party just "happened" randomly after then it wouldn't be expected that you pay.

Your wedding is an entire weekend long?

What day is your ACTUAL wedding? I'm confused. A whole weekend?

Hosted events should be hosted...

Can you just put the money down up front, or pay the tabs at the end of the night?

Wouldn't an "after party post-ceremony" be a reception?

I was just going to ask if this was even a wedding, or some sort of college orientation weekend. Lol

Sorry if I didn't explain everything. I meant post reception! Yes, we are paying for alcohol for the 4.5 hours of the reception as well as the cocktail hour prior. The day before, we are having a bbq in place of a rehearsal dinner, which I understand is pretty traditional. The post BBQ cash bar is not really a hosted event as much as saying that the bar will stay open if people want to continue drinking. The after party, after the reception, is cash bar as well. Every wedding I've ever been to has a cash bar after party, so I didn't think this was really an unusual thing. The only difference is that this is in a remote location so I would like people to know to bring cash if they want to keep drinking.

So, there's no ATM on site?

ETA: I would cover alcohol for your rehearsal dinner, because I would do that regardless of location.

I would find a way to say something like "There is an on site bar. If you wish to drink outside of hosted event hours, be aware transactions are cash only."

If there's not even an ATM on site, that's kinda bogus. What if I only had a 20? What if the bartender ran out of the proper denominations?

ETAA: No ATM? Tell them to bring flasks. I don't see this going over well for a bunch of people. Or bring a cooler. If they aren't going to have an ATM, they should at least allow you to pay the tab separate (write a check at the end? pay up front?). I don't understand how a place can call themselves an all inclusive resort and not even have an ATM.

Can you not bring your own alcohol for the events outside of the hosted times? People will bring money but not enough, forget, etc.

So you are having bbq party the day before the wedding and then another party after the reception?

your question is how do you word that it is a cash bar after the bbq party (day before the wedding) as well as party after the reception?

@aurelia, my "actual" wedding is Saturday night. Everything takes place on the property so guests are encouraged to stay there all weekend.

ETA -correct there is no ATM.

@LCya Yes exactly.

If they are after parties, in which you have hosted the actual party, that makes more sense.

You just tell people word of mouth. Have your bridal party mention it to friends and family saying, "hey, if you want to continue drinking after the rehearsal or the reception, be sure to bring cash."

What Beth said.

@Beth, that's a good idea. I think I still need to list it on the itinerary on site, but will not send it in an email. I've stalked a lot of other people having their wedding at this location's wedding websites, and they all say there's a cash bar but we are also putting a bunch of alcohol in peoples' welcome bags so if they don't have enough cash to drink more, we'll figure something out!

Thank you all!

It's not all inclusive if, well, it's not all inclusive.

I'm not advertising anything as all inclusive. The site describes itself that way, hence the quotes. My question was answered but thanks for all the additional feedback.

Agree that most after parties are not hosted and that that's fine. I think it's completely reasonable to want to give people a heads up about the cash situation, though as you're seeing, it's a little awkward. Because it's kind of delicate to see in print, I'd spread the word by saying something like, "We're happy to offer an open bar for the entirety of the reception. The venue has offered to keep the bar open should guests want an 'after party' following the end of the reception at __ o'clock, but please note that at that point the bar will only accept cash and that there are no ATMs on site. We hope you'll take advantage of the open bar before that!" I don't know, still seems kind of awkward to me, but I think it's better to be direct about it.

I agree with being direct. Just explain that any hotel hosted events will charge for alcohol and unfortunately there are no ATM's on site

I think as long as you are clear that the after party is not hosted, it will be fine. really no different than when guests take the party to a local bar to keep going.

however, if you are actually planning the after party and inviting people to it, thats iffy. I would host. We are having pizza and beer back at the hotel after, casual, for whoever wants to come.