Cash bar can be rude?

Seriously question the coordinator - that's awful advice spun to take advantage of you (new trend? not quite). Be very cautious with working with him/her.

Its your wedding! do what you want!

I've no problem with cash bars , I never even knew about open bars until we moved here. I'll go with the culture and have an open bar though because that's how it is. But to be honest if it came down to having to cut a guest list to accommodate free booze I wouldn't and I'd have a cash bar if I was in that position. And as a guest Id rather be invited to attend and pay for my own drink that not be invited to share the day all over a couple of drinks

Ay yi yi

This is asked everyday.

And "it's your wedding, do what you want" is never good advice unless your are eloping and inviting no guests. So don't listen to that.

Lol. I'm about to make a thread asking about honeyfunds just to make some heads explode

It's not a question of can cash bars be rude. They are rude. Host your quests better than that.

@Karengracer- don't forget wishing wells and cash dances!

Thank you Krista. Perfect advice.

Not.

Wow! Okay, I will put on my thinking cap and decide what should be best. Thank you to everyone :-)

Cash bars are bad mmmmmkay?

I think it must be their "new way" because somehow they are making more $ off of it. My venue didn't even offer cash bar as an option.

I would be calling and asking the coordinator how this is a new thing and letting him/her know this is a very very rude way to suck money from their customers.

We are putting a dollar amount towards the bar and once that number has been met it will switch to a cash bar. We will most likely be doing a lunch wedding and would be sticking with beer and wine, don't think we would go over with the amount we put down. If anyone wants liquor it would be a cash bar though. That is what the venues we looked at and are deciding between suggested we do to make it work within our budget.

Edit---They may charge guests more if it is a cash bar VS: you prepaying for the bar.....thats why she might be recommending a cash bar.

Your coordinator is a moron. Yes it's rude. If it's budget your worried about cut the guest list or do beer and wine? But do not make your guests pay for drinks.

Calling it the new thing is her way of trying to justify something tacky. If you can't afford a full open bar, beer and wine with or without a signature cocktail or two is perfectly acceptable. Host your guests within your means, but host them nonetheless.