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Just Said Yes November 2026

Can’t match my fiancé’s groomsmen…

Tiffany, on October 18, 2024 at 5:47 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 4
I literally have no friends or close family. I am unable to even come up with one name for a bridesmaid.

My fiancé on the other hand is such an extrovert and has a handful of childhood friends that he would like to have stand by his side.

I’ve met and hung out with all his close friends, both male and female, but I don’t feel as if I’ve built a close enough bond to invite his female friends as my bridesmaids.
I’ve voiced my concern to my fiancé that I’m afraid I cannot make friends in time for the wedding. It doesn’t feel genuine to rush or force a friendship just to fill up spots for the bridal party. He continues to tell me that I still have time to befriend his female friends or make new ones and that I’m giving up too early.
I’ve pitched the idea that I’m okay with including both his male and female friends as a joint party and have them equally split on each bride and groom’s side. My idea was kind of brushed aside so now I feel stuck on what else to do.
It’s been an extremely lonely and embarrassing process…

4 Comments

Latest activity by LM, on October 24, 2024 at 10:17 AM
  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    You don't need to have an equal number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. If you don't have any bridesmaids, the groomsmen can all walk down the aisle solo, and then they could all sit in the first row instead of standing at the altar, or they can stand on both sides of the altar.
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  • Michael
    Rockstar October 2023
    Michael ·
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    You have two years until the wedding (based on the date that shows). It is usually best to avoid making decisions on the wedding party until six months ahead of the wedding since people's friendships may change or friends may move out of town. It would help if you had gatherings or double dates to get to know his friends and their partners better. Maybe you will make some friends that way. Also try to do some classes or hobbies with their friends.

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  • Michael
    Rockstar October 2023
    Michael ·
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    If you find hobbies or crafts that the others do, then you can be calling them for help. Or do some volunteer work like in the library or community cleanup. Also, you can try religious gatherings so you will start getting rooted in a community. Will your fiancé help toward socializing with his friends?

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  • LM
    Super December 2022
    LM ·
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    You can have whatever wedding you want and that includes zero bridesmaids. This is becoming increasingly common as weddings are being refocused on the actual couples, even having wedding parties sit during the ceremony, as Lisa suggested.
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