Can’t make it to best friend’s wedding :(

Hoping the best strength and health for your new child.

It is recognized that even in a good situation there can be depression after childbirth. This situation makes it more difficult. However, consider some the possibility that it may help your mood if you can get away from the hospital for maybe 4 or 5 hours (not everyone is equipped with superpowers). At the same time, don't feel compelled. If your husband is giving you assurances that the situation would be fine, try to take advantage of that partly for your friend and partly for yourself. Your friend will understand your choices and mood whether you make it there or not. If you attend the ceremony, let your friend also help decide whether you should be alongside her or just among other guests.

If your baby is in the NICU then by no means should you be expected to attend a wedding!

If your best friend is genuinely your best friend, then she will understand that her best friend's baby is in the hospital and that takes precedence over everything else. I'm sure she'll be sad, but also (hopefully) understanding of your situation.

First of all sending you the biggest of hugs. Its 1000% ok to put your baby and yourself first in the situation. I d call your friend up asap and just let her know you are sad to have to make this choice but right now you do not feel comfortable being that far away from your child. I d send her a nice gift, maybe have some breakfast or champagne delivered to her the morning of or something special waiting for her and her hubby after the wedding and offer to be available to zoom/FaceTime either before the wedding while she's getting ready or during the ceremony. You both are going through huge life transitions right now and emotions are sure to be running a little high make sure to breathe and give each other some grace. Best of luck to you and hopefully your sweet baby is home soon

Just popping in to say hope the babe is doing OK. Hugs to you and congrats on the little one.

I think no-one would judge whatever you decide is best for you and your child.

I think I get your hesitation and guilt. Not that I think you should go and speaking as a bride, I'd be sad that you couldn't come but would ultimately get over it... BUT I would be hurt not because it was rational, just because I'm a person and you mean a lot to me and this is a huge day for someone. I wouldn't make you feel badly about it, but It would be hard to just brush off at first. So I get the guilt. You're a person- she means a lot to you and yet - baby. Good luck and I hope your little one is doing well and that your friend ultimately gets it.