As many of us, my wedding was postponed from June 20 2020 to May 15th 2021. This week Would have been filled with pure happiness if it was not for the events that have been taking place since March. I know I can’t change anything and that I need to move on and be happy that I am still getting married to my best friend in 11 months. I keep thinking about all of the things I would be doing this week. I see friends on social media that are still having their weddings in July and I can’t help but to be jealous and discouraged. I have been with my FH for 9 years as of this Sunday; we were so excited about our wedding.
Anyone have advice on how I can bring some happiness as my original wedding date comes this weekend?
I'm so sorry you had to postpone!! My wedding is currently scheduled for end of July, though we are seriously talking about postponing as well, so I understand the sadness that comes with the original date. You could always plan a mini vacation for around your original date, or at least a date night with your fiance. Maybe see if your photographer is available to do another photo session on your original date, so that you'll have pictures of you and your fiance from that day. I am also curious to hear about what other ideas everyone else comes up with for you. Hoping you are able to make your original date a happy one!
I felt terribly upset when I know I had to postpone. I needed a couple days to grief and cry. Today I feel “okay”. I think once we rebooked the venue and flights, I feel better. I plan to still keep my original date to do the cake cutting, and the reception. Only the ceremony will be postponed. We will do anniversaries on the original date as well. I hope you too feel better soon.
I understand this feeling. My fiancé and I postponed to February 2021. It’s hard watching everyone still get married this summer.
Just remind yourself the reasons why you two postponed. That usually snaps me out of my disappointment. Also limit your time on social media. Still celebrate the day! Hugs...hopefully once this week goes by you can start feeling excited about May 2021
We eloped on our original May 2020 date with just our parents and a few close friends and pushed our wedding and reception back to June 2021. If it's any consolation, our elopement really didn't FEEL like a celebration with everyone so socially distant - it was awkward and disappointing. Your friends having weddings now may be getting married, but their events likely won't look or feel like what they planned. Postponing increases the likelihood that when you marry your best friend it will truly be and feel like all that you imagined.
Definitely celebrate your original date. I recommend whatever you do making it just the two of you - your wedding is about your love and your commitment to one another and really doesn't concern anyone else. Use your original date as an opportunity for a very private and personal celebration, and celebrate with your other loved ones next year on your new date.
It is important to find the joy - and to grieve the loss of the day - and also to put aside some time for just you and your FS. Being cooped up together can sometimes make it hard to remember to actually be present with each other. Have a "picnic" in your backyard, or watch your favorite movie. Give yourself a special night!