Can't find a maid of honor

You don't need a MOH so don't have one. I didn't. I had 3 BMs and I didn't want to choose one above the others.

Have you already asked them?? Personally I’d rather just not have the cousin and other girl as bridesmaids if I’m not that close to them. They are supposed to be your most honored guests... and think of all the pictures they will be in. You don’t NEED a maid of honor, or bridesmaids at all for that matter.

Since you're so close to your mother, maybe you should ask her

With a December 2019 wedding, you don't need to think about it until around January 2019 the earliest I'd say. But I would advise either not having a MOH or asking your mother to be your MOH. There are no rules as to who should be your MOH nor is it necessary to have one. Also, don't ask the one girl just because she asked you. Ask only who are nearest and dearest to you.

The whole thing is just really confusing for me. My fiance is going to have four groomsmen, and he's already asked them . I would have my mom as my maid of honor, but she already told me that she would prefer to see me with people closer to my own age. I've only asked my sisters to be bridesmaids. If I don't have a maid of honor, who stands next to me or gives a speech?

I don’t know how much time you have until your wedding, but don’t feel pressured to decide right now. It’s not a written rule that you must have a MOH. My FH is having no best man and only 2 groomsmen. Not all of the old rules apply anymore. Do what makes you happy and if no one pops in your head to be MOH, then go without.

Honestly I'd rather get my dog a bandanna that says "dog of honor" and have someone walk him up the aisle instead of asking the girl I don't know all that well. Is that a stupid idea? Do venues ever even allow pets at an indoor ceremony?

You don’t need a MOH or a BP for that matter. It’s not a requirement and it really doesn’t change the way you’ll plan your wedding.

I know it may seem like the most important thing, but it’s not. You’re getting married. That’s whats important.

MOH and bridesmaids aren't necessary. I had none, and my husband had his younger sister as a Jr. Bridesmaid. We had no speeches, no parties, and it was fine.
I wouldn't ask people just for the sake of having a warm body standing up next to me.

View Quoted Comment It’s ok for there to be uneven groomsmen vs bridesmaids. Lots of people do that. You should pick people that are important to you, not just pick people because you need a certain number. As for who stands next to you maybe have them flip a coin lol

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As stated earlier, I had 3 BMs, no MOH, but my DH only had his brother as a Best Man, no other groomsmen. As far as speeches, we originally weren't going to do that, but one of my BM wanted to, so she gave a speech after dinner. Easy peasy.

ETA: I forgot to add that they all stand up next to you. I arranged them by how long I knew each one, but some people do it by height.

It's way too soon! wait a until 8-10 months to ask. You don't need a MOH but that will also give you time to really think about it.

Thanks y'all! You've all been super helpful! And for everyone saying it's too soon, I'm not going to ask anyone other than my sisters for awhile, but I can't physically stop myself from wanting to plan everything as soon as possible.

You can just have them all be bridesmaids, or have your mom be you Matron of honor or both of your sisters be maids of honor, the possibities are endless!

So don’t have one. I’m not having a MOH. I wasn’t even going to have BMs but I had a few friends who seemed to really want to be BMs so I picked them. It’s not a huge deal.

Don't choose a MOH. just have your sisters as BMs. As far as who gives a speech... anyone that wants to and you're okay with them giving a speech. And all of your wedding party stands next to you. The one standing directly next to you could be the tallest one, the one you're closest to, or the oldest or youngest one. You can arrange them anyway you like. Don't ask the girl that asked you just to fill an unnecessary spot. You can have your dog in your wedding if your venue will allow it. I see it all over social media now.

Just don't have a MOH.

You could ask your mom, she might really enjoy it. My mil was one of my bm and loved it. She is one of my best friends. She still talks about how she was right there when we got married.

Why can't both of your sisters be a MOH? And then the other 2 as BM? Many people have done this to avoid hurt feelings among best friends and siblings.

Omg I’m in the same boat. My fiancé is super outgoing and already asked 8 of his best friends to be in the wedding. My bridesmaids are going to be nothing but relatives, lucky I have a lot of female cousins lol... which I’m crossing my fingers they say yes to being a bridesmaid! I wish my fiancé would have only chose 3 of his friends. Smh I’d probably do what was suggested above, don’t choose a MOH. I’d feel bad choosing between a sister too. :/