Can't decide if I should invite my cousins

You don't have to invite your cousins.

OK, I just feel weird inviting people that I never see and I was never invited to their wedding. So, I guess that helps! LOL Thanks

If they're first degree family, I think you have to invite them. Second cousins and distant relatives, no, but cousins you may have to invite, especially if you invite aunts and uncles.

I disagree. You don't have to invite your cousins, but you should let your aunts and uncles know. Otherwise, they might extend invites to their kids. I would just explain that you're having a small wedding with your closest family and friends.

I also have not talked to my cousins in several years. I'm only inviting them because my parents are helping out with the wedding and they want them there.

Invite the people close to you, that you want to enjoy your day with. No way would I invite all my cousins, to many people both grandparents had 9 kids and it continued from there.

No you don't have to. I'm skipping cousins. We had to draw the line and for us it made sense. I see my cousins about once a year and my FH never sees his. For us it would have doubled our guest list. If you never talk to them, then I wouldn't bother.

I wouldn't. If they're close to you and your budget allows it, then sure but I wouldn't feel bad skipping them.

I'm in a similar issue, my cousins double our list, if I invited their kids it would be even worse. I'm putting that kids aren't allowed on my invites, and I think that will keep many of them from coming, but I feel obligated to invite them.

I'm only inviting 4 out of 15 first cousins, and the adult daughters of 1 of those cousins. It doesn't make any sense to me to invite people that I don't some sort of a relationship with.

Thanks everyone!

I'm with most of these people - I'm not inviting most of my cousins. I never talk to them! A rule I've been going by is if I haven't spoken to them in a year, they don't need an invite! Including cousins. They will have to deal! I mean if they haven't taken the time to text me "hi" in multiple years I can't imagine they'd really care to go to my wedding. But hey, maybe I'm just heartless

You don't have to invite anyone you don't want to attend!

I have a shit ton of cousins on my mom's side (she is the youngest of 6 with each aunt or uncle having at least 4 kids) so I'm only inviting the aunts/uncles and cousins I'm close to and actually speak to regularly. Nothing wrong with that.

I feel your pain OP. Both of my parents come from families of 8 siblings. On my fathers side, all of my cousins are older than I am and I rarely see them or am invited to family events even though we live in driving distance. I'm closer to my moms side even though we don't see them as frequently. Having to draw the line on cousins has been tough. I'm still struggling with expanding the guest list (which we CAN afford, but would prefer not to since FH really wants to keep the guest list small) or cutting relatives I don't talk to. Talk to your FH and see what his thoughts are. It might make your decision easier. Best of luck!

I struggled with the same thing. Because we had the invitations, they did get sent. I am not sure how big our wedding will actually be.