Can't decide between 2 wedding dates

We had this same decision to make! We ended up picking May 4th because of Easter. Our families celebrate Easter and holding a wedding the same weekend would have been too inconvenient for everyone. Do you have a lot of out of town guests that would be traveling for the wedding? That is a big factor.

I’m not sure I understand why having your anniversary in May is a big deal? It’s only a couple weeks later than the other date. I would definitely pick the May date even though you have other occasions to celebrate that month (although as a May 4 bride I may be biased!)

I think your FH is overthinking this. I would go with May 4th because of Easter. FH's bachelor party was Easter weekend and it was such a hassle because of the holiday. They almost cancelled it entirely. Not the same as a wedding, but a lot of people may not attend because of Easter.

I agree that May 4th is definitely better.

May 4th for sure.

Vendors may charge more for the Saturday right before Easter, flights are expensive, and there may be more traffic on the road for those who don't fly.

I would agree that Easter weekend is probably not the best idea, but if you don't like the idea of a May date, why not look at June?

I would definitely so May before Easter weekend. FH is definitely overthinking the birthdays and mother's day. Yes they are important days but it's not like one trumps the other. You're going to celebrate them in the future and not even care if those dates were close together

I think it depends what your families usually do for Easter.

We are getting married April 19 next year, and while we didn't realize it was Easter weekend until after we booked and put a (nonrefundable) deposit down, it didn't really matter in the end because Easter is not a huge deal in our families. If yours are very religious, many people may care.

I would definitely go with May over having it on Easter weekend.

My family isn't really high on Easter, some celebrate but it's not a big deal. I only have 3 ppl out of town that are staying with family so no big problem there. But I am concerned about vendors ,mainly photography bc I know they do alot of business for Easter weekend and I feel like I'll be upcharged. Not for the May 4th the concern was having anniversary with birthdays as we do birthdays really big in our family and having mothers day , just didn't want to put to much stress on FH trying to make me and mom happy during. I'm not too concerned about it but FH is. I think I'll talk with him to let him know it's not a big deal bc May 4th does seem like the easier route to go

View Quoted Comment Is your guest list mainly family? You may have friends you'd like there whose families celebrate Easter, which is something to consider.

You're most likely going to get charged more for all vendors.

If it helps, my brother's, FH's, BIL's, our dating anmiversary, and mothers day are in May. We manage fine while still being able to celebrate!

It depends on your guests. Our wedding is being held at FHs church so if we did Easter weekend it wouldn’t work.
Thinks to think about
-is your venue ceremony and reception?
If not are you having your wedding in a church that celebrates Easter? If so they probably won’t even let you do it that weekend.
-officiant are you using an officiant who celebrates Easter?
If so they may not want to do your wedding because it’s too much to have two big events in succession to eachother.
-do a lot of your guests celebrate Easter?
A lot of families who do attend church and that means they may not come because they will not be able to do so.

My my vote would be for May 4th. I don’t see why all the other things would stress him out. They’re not all on the same day and his mother’s birthday even if he is close to her shouldn’t mean you can’t get married in that month, the way your date is means that none of the dates will rotate to fall on eachother since mother’s day will never be on the 4th and they others are fixed days. We’re getting married April 21st this year which means our anniversary will be Easter next year so we will have to deal with that and figure out if we postpone our one year or if we celebrate it our own way.

In the end do whats best for you but also remember your guests have lives so if they don’t attend if you choose the 20th then you’ll have to try not to be upset with their decision.
Best of luck!

May for sure. Easter Sunday/Monday are both really expensive for flying, if you have guests who will be doing so.

Also, May 4th is the day we got engaged, so it's a pretty awesome day

I think may bc of out of town guest. Prices will be up got Easter weekend

We got married 4 days after my husband's birthday, and he likes to joke that he will never forget our anniversary because it's right after his birthday! Like you, we had limited choice with our date due to scheduling conflicts. Maybe you can point out some of the advantages - it's easy to remember because so many major dates are already in May and you can combine birthday and anniversary to take a bigger trip or have an extra-special celebration if that's your style. Plus it allows you to have your spring wedding without the inconveniences attached to Easter. I'm an April baby that often has my birthday over Easter weekend, and it can old sometimes (especially if it falls on Good Friday).

If your choices are Star Wars Day and Weed Smoking Day, I’d go with Star Wars. Definitely May 4!

View Quoted Comment Lol, great point. How lit do you want your wedding day to be?

View Quoted Comment Haha! Exactly!!

We are having ours the weekend before thanksgiving and it’s also a destination wedding.... Not ideal but I wouldn’t stress too much about it! Just go with your gut and it will all work out

View Quoted Comment Hahah I thought we were being crazy but this was the other reason we chose May 4 over April 20!

View Quoted Comment Lol you just reminded me why I didn't want 4/20 in the first place. Don't want those kinda jokes. So I think May 4th it will be