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Cant afford to get married...courthouse instead?

Abigail Sayler, on February 18, 2019 at 6:04 PM Posted in Planning 0 12

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Hi everyone,
In my last few forums I have posted about low budget weddings but I'm afraid at this point we have no budget and we are to be married in July. No deposits are down whatsoever as well as no suits or dresses are ordered. We have been struggling financially for a few months. FH parents are housing us so we can get out of our debt, which we are almost out of! But all the funds that would of gone to the wedding are going to our debts and moving out currently. FH doesn't care where the wedding is at but suggesting it in my moms backyard but it is not ideal or upkept, plus it is just not what I want. I have a vision of what I want my wedding to be. However, we still want to be married. I was thinking one option could be to get married at a courthouse on our desired date and have a ceremony and reception at a later date where we are more financially stable. I just know that if I plan to have my wedding this coming July that we will be moving and then every month until my wedding date will be extremely stressful and I have been constantly stressed for months now. I just dont want to worry! Maybe its possible.. but I'm not sure what to do. I would love some input! Thank you.

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Alexandra · on February 18, 2019 at 6:08 PM
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First off, good for you for focusing on becoming more financially healthy! It’s really something to be proud of.

If I were you, I’d go the route of a simple ceremony this July, and then having a vow renewal/celebration of marriage at a later date. You be married soon and then you can have the party when you can afford it!
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Abby · on February 18, 2019 at 6:18 PM
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I would definitely go with the courthouse wedding for right now and a bigger vow renewal down the road. You don't want to put yourself back into a bad financial situation if you're working to get out of it.
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Tara · on February 18, 2019 at 6:44 PM
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Kudos to you for having your priorities in check. I definitely recommend you do a courthouse wedding.
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Chandra · on February 18, 2019 at 7:12 PM
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You could do the small courthouse wedding now, have a nice dinner with the immediate family, then do a vow renewal later on when the financial situation of better!
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on February 18, 2019 at 7:18 PM
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Totally agree with this. And there are some lovely courthouses with gardens or cool buildings for beautiful photos!
If I got married at a courthouse, I'd still get a beautiful wedding dress, hair & makeup done so I felt it was a special day. I'd also hire a good photographer, even of only for 1-2 hours, because I'd want beautiful wedding photos and photos of my family.
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· on February 18, 2019 at 7:41 PM
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My FH and I are going through a similar thing right now (we are staying with a friend instead of our parents) and even though we want to get married ASAP, I always had a vision of what my wedding will be. We thought about the courthouse a few times and we both decided that it wasn't what we has envisioned so instead of getting married in 6 months like originally planned, we made a budget plan ($20 a week for the next three months until we are out of debt caused by medical bills and then $400 a month after that until 2023/2024). However not everyone wants to push their wedding 4 or 5 years into the future so at the end of the day do what's best for you. You're wedding day is all about you (and your FH, but mostly you) and you shouldn't be super stressed about it, you should be relaxed as possible and happy. I do recommend waiting until the debts are paid off (it makes things a little easier) but ultimately just do what is best for you, your FH and your wedding. Best of luck 💕
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Leigh · on February 18, 2019 at 9:13 PM
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Courthouse! Getting married is what matters. You can have a big anniversary or vow renewal someday when you’re more stable. I admire your priorities.
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Mrs. Dujmovic · on February 18, 2019 at 9:49 PM
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There's always a vow renewal! You can get married in a courthouse and have a vow renewal when you're more financially stable. That's what my husband and I are doing. We got married last July in Vegas to qualify for military housing and we will now be having a vow renewal this July. A vow renewal can be all the big deal a wedding is, just different in the fact that you're already married! A little magic lost, but not really because you're still sharing your commitment in front of friends and family.
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Ana · on February 18, 2019 at 10:08 PM
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My cousin had a court house wedding in October and we all went to lunch after. They invited their families and close friends. It was maybe 20 people. I must say it was the nicest most intimate wedding I have been to.
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Jolie · on February 19, 2019 at 9:16 AM
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Soooo why are you getting married this year then? I will never understand people who say they don't have a budget for a wedding but are still trying to plan one. If I was not ready financially to be married I would never do it until I was, even at the court house. Being in debt is no joke and congrats on almost being out of it but then where do you go from there? Stability before getting married is pretty essential, even when hosting a wedding is put aside.
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N · on February 19, 2019 at 9:22 AM
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Courthouse then a nice dinner after. Or just get married officially now and have a “real wedding” at a better time.
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Ashley · on November 24, 2019 at 8:45 PM
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Hey Honey! I just want to first say please don't feel bad for making great financial decisions before getting married! That is very important. You are not alone and not the only one who has had to make changes to their original wedding plans until things get better for them. Check out me and my husband story, we were originally set to get married 04/18/2020 but then we bot decided to just have a small ceremony with our parents and kids in a park this year which took place 07/13/2019. I loved it and it was very nice and intimate and all of us went out to eat after and had a good time.

We saved so much money doing this, also with weddings being so expensive, I just felt we were not financially prepared for the tab in year 2020. So we decided to push it back since we are already married and we changed it to 07/13/2024!That date is actually our 10 year together anniversary. That makes it so so much more special, I loved the idea and this gives us the time to pay off everything for the wedding without feeling rushed and without being in debt or going into debt.

So take as much time as you need and whatever your dream wedding is, you can still have it, so do the courthouse girl, your marriage and love is what matters!! cheers!!
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