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Just Said Yes October 2010

Can't afford a reception, just the wedding!

twnkle03, on August 31, 2010 at 12:52 PM Posted in Planning 0 3

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My fiance and I are at ends trying to decide what to do about our wedding. I have a large family, and so does my fiance. We've tried budgeting to see if we could afford to feed/give gifts to all my family, but we are unable to! We ended up decided on just inviting our immediate family and some friends, which comes out to about 30 people. Then we would have a small lunch together at my home.

Well, we told my parents of our idea, and they are wondering why we can't invite everyone. They are saying my aunts are really excited to go to the wedding, and are asking about it. My mom believes they will be ok with just going to the ceremony, and being understanding that we won't have a reception. We would still want to do the small lunch after the wedding with just the immediate family though.

Now, I know this is not etiquette, but we are not trying to be rude or take presents. We would just love to have everyone see us get married.

Just need advice on which of these ideas sounds reasonable

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Latest activity by Mrs Cupcake, on September 8, 2010 at 1:15 PM

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Cherie · on September 1, 2010 at 8:27 PM
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I dont know if its tacky but could you maybe do like a potluck type deal and still have the reception. when they RSVP they can say if they would like to bring a dish and it would be in lue of a present?? i am sure their are all kinds of ways to do a cheap reception and it is the fun part so i thought id through that out. and look into the local community center they are usually cheaper for residences. i dont know good luck
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Devon · on September 8, 2010 at 1:12 PM
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Something that is coming back around is the traditional cake and punch party after the ceremony. Or if you wanted dress it up do cake and champagne with a glass jars filled with different types of lemonades. You can dress up a dessert and beverage table to be so beautiful.
If you're in a city with a nice park see about using it. Then set out some yard games (croquet, bocce ball, etc) and have people have their dessert and drinks there. If you do that and want alcohol you have to check with that city's codes/permits with it. But a nice traditional punch/lemonade with be a great social time.
For out engagement party we put a 'no gifts requested' at the bottom of our invite. But its your wedding. If people want to give you gifts to help you get started, then let them.
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Mrs Cupcake · on September 8, 2010 at 1:15 PM
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You must have reception, it is rude to have just ceremony but that is my opinion. You could do just punch and cake at someone house after the wedding or have breakfast brunch or have a wedding on weekday for cheaper price.
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