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Cancelling wedding, planning elopment dinner then 1 yr anniversary party

Gab, on August 25, 2020 at 4:51 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 5

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Hi!

Looking for thoughts on our idea of how to deal with changing the original plans for our wedding. (thanks, COVID )

We currently live in New England where most of our family and friends live. From the beginning we wanted a small, intimate wedding, that was basically just a big party to celebrate with our 40 friends and family, so we planned a destination wedding in New Orleans for March 2021. It is looking like traveling across the US to New Orleans and having the Bourbon Street experince will not be opened or back to normal by our wedding date (in my opinion), so looking to see what other brides think about our plan B:

1) We are mailing a printed note, handsigned by us (bride/groom) to everyone that was invited indicating that we are cancelling the wedding due to the uncertainty with COVID. The risk of travel for our older guests and chances of haivng to cancel the month of is just too much to ask for.

2) We plan to elope on the original day and host a post-elopement dinner that night with immediate family and wedding party

3) Then we plan to host a 1-year anniversary party in New Orleans in spring 2022. Open bar passed apps - basically the wedding without the ceremony - to celebrate together. Whoever can make it.

Are we crazy to cancel the wedding now and host a 1-year anniversary destination event? Of course, whoever cannot commit to the travel for a 1-year anniversary I totally understand. From the beginning we just wanted a big party with our loved ones.

Interested to hear your initial thoughts and if anyone is thinking about doing something similar?!? Thanks and wish all of you the best!

(To be honest I just want to be married and not stress day and night about the what-ifs for a wedding)

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Latest activity by Aly, on August 28, 2020 at 6:55 AM

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Samantha · on August 25, 2020 at 4:54 PM
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I think a lot of people are turning to this option and it's definitely our Plan B! It's not crazy at all! I think it's really smart not to wait until the month of your wedding to cancel, we're holding out hope until the last second and every new development is heartbreaking.
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Gab · on August 25, 2020 at 4:59 PM
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UGH- THANK YOU Samantha! I know we are in new wedding "norms" territory b/c of COVID, but I just don't want our orignal guest list to think we are crazy to host a destination 1-year anniversary.. Glad to hear it sounds like a solid plan B to someone outside of our family/friends.
Best of luck with your planning - hope it all works out. At the end of the day we just have to do what will make us happy.
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Master September 2020
Nicole · on August 25, 2020 at 8:51 PM
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This is what we’re doing (except the anniversary party/reception/whatever you want to call it will be at our original venue). We’ll be eloping right before we would have sent invites for the postponed Plan B wedding (eloping is Plan C), so once we’re back, we’re going to send out elopement announcements that will double as a save the date for next year. As someone who waited until 3 weeks out to postpone the first time, I’m now all about making the decision sooner, rather than later.
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· on August 25, 2020 at 10:36 PM
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We're in New England and have a similar plan, minus the destination part because we always had a local venue. Our immediate families were also with us for the ceremony. Our plan A wasn't an option because of covid, but even if it had been, I wouldn't have wanted to take that risk. I'm really glad we made the decision to still get married. It ended up being the perfect day for us and I'm much more relaxed than I was before the wedding. I'm even more relaxed now because it's been over two weeks and no one has covid!
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Just Said Yes September 2020
Aly · on August 28, 2020 at 6:55 AM
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Hi there, we are eloping soon and then won't be having our full wedding until 2022! I think whatever works and is safe is what you should do. We aren't even doing a dinner party because we don't feel that is can be done safely (our families are in different states). We will be sending out a sort of "we did it" card to our immediate family, friends, and bridal party. I'm excited for the privacy of our wedding day and then the extended excitement of our wedding day part 2. =)
Congrats!
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