Cancelling Friend as dj

Yes, agreed! It’s a big part of our day, I wanna DANCE! Lol

Funny you are posting this. I was going to hire a friend that is starting her cake business to do a post elopement dinner wedding cake when I was planning to work with an established bakery. Ultimately if he is being flakey then maybe hire the professional. It is hard to tell friends no esp when we want to support them but I would be up front and say it is concerning that he has not responded and would like communication. Probably since he is giving a discount he may not take it as seriously as he would a full time paying.

That’s what my fiancé said. He thinks bc I am a friend, he isn’t taking it as seriously. Good luck deciding on your cake, that is a big one too! Have her make you a bunch of samples YUM!

Oh I decided she can make some bachelorette cupcakes but my wedding cake will be the bakery. It will be more cost effective. I will say if you cancel he may take offense and that might change the friendship. Are you ok with that?

Good choice - I just commented on your post too lol. I did think of that, and ultimately if he takes offense, then that’s fine. This is our wedding, and I don’t feel I’m in the wrong with him being flaky already.

Search for and read old posts about "friendors" (using friends as vendors...) and you will feel VERY certain about changing your minds on this. I'd go with the, "we really want you to be able to relax and enjoy the wedding as a guest," as an explanation for your friend, and then hire a professional. As pps mentioned, a great DJ absolutely MAKES a wedding, so it's not something you want to take a risk with, I'd definitely hire a well vetted professional. Good luck!

Really similar situation happened to us with a photographer!

I recommend just telling him you've been thinking about it and you realized you really value his friendship and would rather him join the wedding as a guest so he can enjoy it and celebrate with you. Make it sound like a good thing! Lol

I agree and we need to take our day seriously no disrespect to our friends. I forewarned my friend about that and I let her know the bachelorette was to test her cakes and that I would price compare so if I ultimately choose them she knows why. Hard when friends offer services for such a big day because it can be good or bad. Good luck and thanks for the response.

I would get a new DJ. It's not worth you stressing over, especially if he isn't responding. I would just tell him that you have found another DJ and you and your FH would rather he enjoy the wedding with you, instead of working it. If he stops responding to you mid-text message, it shows me that he is not very responsible. If it were me, I'd find a professional. It will ease your mind once you do.

I agree with PPs, get a professional who you don't have a previous relationship with!

Thanks for the input everyone! We have decided to hire a professional, and found one we are excited to work with!