Cancelled Wedding

I can’t say I fully understand as I’m not in your shoes. Just wanted to send you a virtual hug and know that you’re not alone.

I am sorry and your feelings are valid. Why can't you still have a wedding? I mean it will need to be when things are under control if you want his parents there. I feel like you want your wedding and should have one. Can you postpone?

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We might be able to at some point, but we have no way of rescheduling right now because we don't know when that will be. The border closure to Canada renews monthly, but all discussion indicates it will be closed for quite a while. It makes it harder that we live in Florida, my family is in Connecticut, his family is in Canada, and then friends are scattered. We don't have a location that would make it easy to attend with everything going on. It might be possible eventually.

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Thank you!! Sending a hug back for anything you're going through right now

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Oh that is a rough one. Was your original wedding in FL? I am from FL too and they will not take things serious lol. I ask because I would make the wedding where you want and others have to figure out how to get there. I know there are no knowns right now and it is frustrating (trust me I wish there was something figured out with corona too) but I would plan something at some point so you have your special day. Although for now have a glass of wine and your fave comfort food. You deserve it.

I totally understand Emma! It sucks for all the planning to be for nothing in a sense. We will also be having a minimony on our original date, but I go back and forth from being excited for an intimate ceremony, to just being so upset that we can't do our original plans. It's an emotional rollercoaster. I don't think I'll be happy until we actually have our "big day" as planned, although I am super excited we're still getting married on our original date, just wish we could have all our family and friends there to celebrate. You're not alone!

No matter how happy you are to be married, it also completely makes sense that you are disappointed/angry/upset that you didn't get to have the wedding you've planned for so long. Please be gentle with yourself and allow yourself to grieve over the things that didn't get to happen. Yes, in the big picture there are things that would be much worse, and you clearly understand that, but you're also entitled to feel however you feel. Maybe seek out a small number of people -- H, your mom, a best friend -- who can understand that you are both thrilled to be married AND devastated that you didn't get to have the wedding you wanted, and are willing to just listen to whatever venting you need to do. (If nothing else, perhaps seek out some short term counseling -- therapists are like "paid friends" who have to listen to you! ) I'm so sorry! Hang in!

I definitely feel you. I had a breakdown the other day about how it just isn't fair we have to postpone our big celebration. I am happy to have an intimate ceremony with our important people, and we joke that this is like the trial run wedding, so that if something goes wrong next year at the big wedding, then it doesn't really matter because at least we will already be married! But it doesn't make it easier that COVID is taking away what should have been a grand celebration with all our friends and family. I even get kind of annoyed at our friends and peers who got married last year, because they just missed this mayhem lol.

Poor Emma!
I can totally feel your pain/aggravation/ sadness.....
For I’m going through the same! Our original date was June 21st. Then COVID-19 happened. Ever since we’ve postponed 3 times 😳. We’ve decided on October 9th 2020. Well, this one is not going to happen either, since my mom is living in Germany and they will not allow her to fly here. FH and I had several conversations about how we should plan now. And just like you, I was getting to a point where I just didn’t want to move on with it anymore. And I also got the same feedback from friends and my 3 daughters saying it’s not a big deal! It took me a couple of days to recoup and do some serious thinking. FH is right! I don’t want to get married without my mom. Therefore we’ve decided to reschedule ONE more time. June 20th 2021. Hang in there, we’re all getting through this!!!HUGS 🤗

View Quoted Comment Thank you! Love your ideas and support. Honestly just venting and getting it out helped. I so much appreciate everyone on these forums and the support.

View Quoted Comment You will love your minimony! I did love ours, but just also still want the real wedding I’ve been dreaming of. Thank you for sharing and understanding. My only advice to you and your future hubs when going through the tough corona times is don’t hold it in! Today I let out all my feelings about our cancelled wedding and I feel lighter.

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View Quoted Comment Agreed! I get annoyed when they repost their wedding pictures, even though none of this is their fault! And then I get mad at myself for not picking an earlier date. It’s a vicious cycle lol. I hope you’re feeling a little bit better. It is so unfair that we’ve all had to go through this. Never in a million years would I have ever thought my wedding would be derailed by a pandemic.

View Quoted Comment Omg I’m so sorry! That is SO tough! I’m glad you found a new date and I will definitely be thinking of you and hoping you have the most perfect day! You definitely deserve it!

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Oh I get it. Sometimes we as women just need to vent, cry, scream whatever problems out. I am glad you had a place to do so because I know sometimes it is not easy to vent feelings to the fh or others in your life. Glad you feel better. I do hope you get your day and things get better with corona soon.

I would have it in October and maybe livestream for a private event on fb to your Canadian relatives? It’s not ideal but I personally couldn’t imagine postponing again. We moved our April wedding to September, and the mental exhaustion is unreal. Hugs to you, I hope you get to have your day.

GROUP HUGGGGG to all of you going through this stress and mental exhaustion. I feel your anger, I feel your sadness and frustration.

We've been on the fence about canceling our September 27th wedding, which we had to move from our original date of June 13th. Its been days of back and forth. Some days, we're really excited and some days, I just can't stop crying because a part of me feels like we're being selfish moving forward with this wedding. Doesn't help that everyone is constantly reminding me of the risk we're taking and sending us links to covid outbreaks at weddings. Yes, we are obviously more than aware of what's going on and we're doing the best we can. We're a month away from our big day and I can't get any motivation to continue planning because we're still unsure if this is going to happen or not. Ugh, the struggle. I know there are worse things, but this is one thing we should all be excited for, and it's just bringing so much stress.

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I feel for you. There are so many opinions and that makes it even harder. I know a few friends who have had beautiful weddings recently. They were different than originally planned due to new restrictions, but they were beautiful and the bride and groom were so happy. I'm sure your vendors will make sure it is safe! Sending you lots of love and praying that you have your perfect wedding (whether now or in the future).