Cancelled wedding and people still have expectations

Our wedding had to be cancelled in full due to the coronavirus. We can't leave the state based on orders from the DOD, and fiance is also being deployed in November or earlier given the circumstances. We picked the next best option which is to elope. My dad offered to officiate and we spent today coming up with ideas for a ceremony. My dad and I came up with a decent plan considering the parameters in which we can work. My mom, shot it down. Saying their house is not good enough for a wedding, the paint isn't perfect, it isn't clean enough, etc. By the way, their house is plenty clean, in fact it is so clean that you get yelled at when stepping on the carpet because "footprints." So I love my mom, but holy crap woman. Where do you expect me to get married during a pandemic, in April, when Indiana is generally still cold and dead, and most places are shut down?! I already lost my dream day and I cannot take this anymore. Can I at least get married without people setting expectations right now. Are other brides dealing with this? I feel like I am hitting a brick wall with everyone.