Cancelled Bridal shower......

Basically, no one should throw their own bridal shower anyway. Plan B sounds better.

No because, as Celia said, you're not supposed to throw your own shower.

If I understand correctly... you were planning and paying for your own bridal shower?

That's not how it's supposed to happen. You should definitely stick with Plan B.

MS. A yes that was it I was paying for it all and two out of 5 was somewhat willing to help but I didnt want them to pick up that slack because of others. SO I just decided to just not to do it. I was going to have to get a caterer and that was going to cost way more than I bargained for so I told FH that that was it. and He agreed totally and said I would most likely be happier with Plan B.

Thanks ladies for making me feel a little better

Plan B sounds perfect and fun and stress free!

I wont have anything like that, most likely. My BMs are all out of town and my MOH has two kids to pay for plus college and no job, so its pretty much out of the question. Be glad for what you do have.

Aw I sorry Angel if we were in the same city you and I could have our own bridal shower and call it a day.

Huh?! why were you throwing your own shower?

@ Kirst Because I couldnt get any help from my BMs. and so I was doing everything on my own with the exception of two but it was becoming too hard for them to try and do everything wen there are many other people but they just didn't want to show I just decided to not to one at all.

Chynai, I'm sorry that YOU have to worry about the planning of your shower... Technically, YOU should not be planning your shower, it should be your mom and/or bridal party.

You never know, just maybe they will surprise you!! But I would go ahead with Plan B.

I'm the same as Angel, I don't have any BM's as my close friends are all overseas. Plus in some cultures, a bridal shower is a real no no (UK for example) Different strokes for different folks. Personally, a trip to the mall for shopping food and drinks sounds WAY more appealing to me anyway But basically anything with drinks appeals to me lol. Enjoy it Chynai and don't feel bad in the slightest!

You did the right thing...have a good time with your BM's and throw a spa day into the mix.

Thanks again ladies and year right on my mom planning anything she is too wrapped up in herself to think about anything for my wedding.

But thanks so much for the kind words and letting me know that everything will be okay.

Im actually throwing my own along with the help of my step mom. im paying for minor things like game prizes and table cloths. i made my own centerpieces. my stepmom is buying food and drinks. i wanted one and not 1 of my bridesmaids is helping not even my MOH.honestly, im upset that they cant help or care to. but i want one and despite of them not caring or helping im doing it for me! they will be there and thats fine i not about bieng angry at them. i want to happy. after all, i deserve it. even though not alot of fam can help because of financial issues and the fact that they are "too busy" i still love them and want to share this day with them. Consider giving your self some time to save a bit more money to have a bridal shower. im only having finger foods and DIY bridal shower games! just because your BM or MOH cant help doesnt mean you dont deserve one.!

I agree, do not host your own shower!!! You can co-host, but don't do it on your own. Besides the fact that people should do this for you, it just looks bad when one does it for herself. I would just make it a girls day/night out like you said for plan B and go with it. Let those negative Nancy's be their own way and if they don't feel like helping host a party for you, then have fun all your own with the girls you love!!

Plan B sounds good.

I agree, you are not supposed to throw your own shower lol

Don't feel too bad though. I am sure I won't have one my BMs don't seem to be into the whole wedding stuff and I doubt they have even thought about the bachelorette party, let alone the shower. Oh well....

Throwing your own shower is like saying, "Hi! I want gifts". No one really 'deserves' a shower; it's a gift given by your attendants, and sometimes family. If they're not going to do that, move on.

Falbride thats what I say oh well and I will enjoy my day out with friends who actually care and want to be there

No worries! Plan B sounds great! I didn't have a bridal shower because of logistics. I have to say, I didn't miss it.

So what about if I'm the MOH and already put together the shower and sent invites, but now she wants to cancel the shower? She's still getting married and having a reception, but her fiancé insists on a small wedding so they don't want to HAVE to invite, as etiquette dictates, the bridal shower invites to the wedding. I think it's okay to just invite the shower attendees to the reception only and all is well, right?