Canceling Wedding to Elope!

That sounds like the perfect thing to say! Honestly I’m a little jealous, I’d really like to just be married not wait until May!!

So happy for you that you’re doing what you and your fiancé want! Congratulations! No one that loves you will have a problem with it, and if they do they’ll just have to get over it!

Sounds like the perfect wedding to me! I envy you, I’m really regretting all this planning and work. I wanted to just elope on an island but circumstances changed.
Your wording looks fine to me, I wouldn’t change anything.

Since you have already sent out the save the dates can you still have the reception when you get back on the same date and elope previous to the date?

Eloping sounds wonderful! I like the wording you're considering telling guests

Sounds exactly about right. We were initially planning a huge wedding in October 2020 but decided to have a small intimate ceremony instead: A)We wanted to get married quickly B) We wanted to save/spend our money towards remodeling our home.

I also love the wording. If you want to make it more exciting or i guest comical you could say...Did you save the date? Great! Now trash it! We are eloping October............ !!!We appreciate your love and support with our decision and Look froward to celebrating our union with you in the near future. Love is love and still remains love.

Your wording sounds perfect! I really wish we had canceled the wedding and just eloped like FH wanted to do in the beginning. I completely regret planning a wedding. Between the arguments and the outrageous amount of money a wedding costs I totally understand why people elope.

View Quoted Comment Totally agree!! We are 29 days out and wishing we would’ve considered eloping! I know it will be a magical day either way but..... lol

If I could go back I’d probably do the same thing but it’s too late now 🤷🏻‍♀️

Great wording!! I'm so happy for you and your fiance. Sometimes, you have to do what is best, and what you can afford. Sure, some people may not be happy. But you guys don't have financial help from anyone- it's all on you. So you've gotta do what's best. SOO happy for you

Your wording sounds perfect! We too also decided to elope next month after putting down payments down. It's so much less stressful and somehow makes it that much more exciting for us!

Sorry it is costing you money. It is completely okay to cancel any event with 6 months that notice. If you had not used save the dates, a form with as many problems as good points, no apology would be needed. On wording: These days a lot of people mistakenly use the word elope to mean, a very small private wedding, just a few family or friends at a courthouse. When elope actually means you go away to marry, and at most have 2 witnesses ( legally required so e states.). And when guests you cancel on later hear that you had some family or guests, just not as many, they feel lied to. Which makes them angry. If you really are going to go away and get married with nobody with you, definitely use the term elope. If your intent is to dispense with the big wedding, and reception, and have some people there, even just parents, say a small private wedding, or a civil wedding with only a few witnesses . Since most though not all city hall, courthouse, judges chambers etc.limit the total number of onlookers to 2-8, there is no feeling, other people ended up going, just not me, after being told you were eloping when in fact you didn't. Weddings are a multi-generational thing, and since the wedding industry in some areas has been marketing small weddings as elopements, misusing a centuries old term, most people not tuned in to wedding advertising and shows use the traditional idea. The point of an apology is to be clear, and not leave you with a second misunderstanding to apologize for later. You may also be unsure which you will do at this time, small private ( some people you know there) or small private ( no one you know there, eloping ). But small private covers both.

What about making something digital that says, “Change of Plans... WE’RE GETTING HITCHED!” Then include your pictures, the date , etc. Then if anyone ask about the change, you can tell them privately 💕

I love the wording and more importantly you are doing what you and your FH want to do and that’s what it’s about. Good luck and congratulations!

That sounds perfect, I wouldn’t change much and it sounds like you are going to reach out personally to those who may need a little explanation. It’s a very personal decision but ultimately, it’s about you two. A wedding is just one day and there’s so much societal pressure so I am so glad you two are doing what’s best for you!