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Expert July 2015

Canceling the Honeymoon

FutureMrsPurdy, on June 7, 2015 at 11:09 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 11

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The wedding has cost more than we thought it would, & we have cut a lot of costs! We are down to 25 days & we had to make a hard decision- can we really afford to go on a honeymoon? After talking about it yesterday we decided to cancel the honeymoon. Today I made the phone calls & it feels like a weight has been lifted off our shoulders! Money is still tight, but will have enough to pay for the wedding. We will be driving from upstate NY to Georgia a couple of days after the wedding to bring his kids back to their mother. So we will have a night in a hotel before we drive back to NY. I'm totally fine with it. We had thought of a mini-moon at a lake near our house, but now we are not doing that to save all the money we can to put towards the wedding & hopefully buy a house in the next year. Maybe we'll go on our first anniversary? Considering we told people our original plans, how do we say we had to cancel our plans w/o sounding like we blew our budget, even though we did

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Latest activity by Emma, on June 8, 2015 at 10:43 AM

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WolfWedding2016 · on June 7, 2015 at 11:14 PM
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If people ask I would just say plans changed for now and hopefully you'll be able to reschedule in the future, I guess? This is also why I'm not planning our honeymoon until next year after we figure out our taxes. We've looked and priced out a few things and our wedding is not going to be a huge expense, but I don't want to plan something all out and have to cancel it. I'm a planner/Type A person and it would personally drive me nuts to do so. I don't think you have to notify people of the change, though. If it comes up in conversation, just say that buying a house became more of a priority!
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Karebear · on June 7, 2015 at 11:14 PM
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Just say that you shuffled priorities. They don't need to know the why or the details.
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Nikki · on June 7, 2015 at 11:37 PM
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That's a responsible decision. I'm sure it was tough! I'd just say you decided the timing wasn't quite right and you wanted to take a trip at a different time of year. Or blame work.
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Crystal · on June 7, 2015 at 11:47 PM
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I'm in the same boat! I've told a million people that we were going to Puerto Rico for HM and now it doesn't look like we're going anywhere due to money. So frustrating
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Imtheone4Him · on June 7, 2015 at 11:50 PM
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Keep your head up. . If people ask, you already had a great answer..looking into a house.
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Future Mrs. Pryor · on June 8, 2015 at 9:48 AM
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I agree with the other ladies, if anyone asks just say you had a change of plans. No further explaining needed.
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Beginner October 2015
Diane · on June 8, 2015 at 9:54 AM
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I think more and more for our generation couples are taking their honeymoons on their first anniversary. It's no longer a needed tradition, no one is expecting you two to be virgins right? In one year it will feel just as special. And starting your marriage NOT in debt shows your whole family you aren't in it for the party, you're in it for the long run.
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EatKnitRun · on June 8, 2015 at 10:01 AM
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It sounds like you made the right decision! We are not planning on a honeymoon until the winter following our wedding, so 8 months or so. I think a lot of couples delay it for financial reasons. I think everyone will understand that trying to buy a house takes precedence over any vacation, even a honeymoon. Any more details are none of their business!
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Snarky · on June 8, 2015 at 10:06 AM
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I did this too. We exchanged a week in the bahamas for a week minimoon in the carolinas. If anybody asked how the bahamas was we just said we decided to take a minimoon this year and take a bigger "honeymoon" in a year or so.
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Ashley&Nick · on June 8, 2015 at 10:21 AM
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That is a very common thing to go on your honeymoon later. I wouldn't worry about telling people and if they ask just be honest most will understand!
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Emma · on June 8, 2015 at 10:43 AM
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We aren't taking one either. We just didn't budget like we should have. We'll be able to take a trip soon enough. We plan to go on a mini-moon.
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