Canceled!

I am very sorry that you are going through this. What was his reasoning for wanting to postpone the wedding? It sounds like you two need to have a very serious conversation and if you both want the same thing. Couples counseling might be beneficial.

I'm so sorry you are going through this! You should have a serious conversation with him to determine where things stand and what his concerns are. Many people are postponing their weddings this year due to COVID - is this the reason he wants to postpone? If not, couples counseling may help you two sort through everything. Since you already sent out invitations, if the wedding isn't going to happen on the date on your invitations, I recommend sending out an update to your guests as soon as possible to let them know that the wedding is being postponed (so that your guests don't make nonrefundable travel plans).

Oh no! I'm super sorry. What was his reasoning?

Have you already paid for everything? If so, have you considered still having a wedding and legally marrying later?

Do you think maybe he is getting cold feet or nervous because the date is coming soon? I definitely wouldn't end it, try talking to him or maybe even pre marital counseling?

View Quoted Comment He thinks he needs to be more financially stable, just materialistic reasoning and I’m not buying it

View Quoted Comment I suggested counseling but I don’t know yet, I’m trying to figure what to tell our guests in regards to postponing because I don’t think his reason is a worthy reason to share with them

View Quoted Comment He wants to be more financially stable, no I haven’t

View Quoted Comment Ok thank you, I’m thinking about counseling though

View Quoted Comment If you are definitely not having your wedding on the date you listed on your invites, send something out to your guests soon. You don't owe any lengthy explanation or anything to them, I would just state something such as, "The wedding of [name] & [name] will no longer occur on [date]. We apologize for the inconvenience, and we will let you know if we are able to reschedule to a new date." This leaves it open in case you decide to reschedule, but also leaves it OK if you decide not to.

View Quoted Comment Ok, thanks I appreciate that 💙

I’m really sorry to hear that. I have no advice to give other than thus... you definitely know him (and your relationship) better than any of us. So, if it seems weird or “lame”, you’re probably correct and it’s best that you found out now and not later.

View Quoted Comment Yeah I would definitely seek that!

View Quoted Comment Me and my fiance are getting married in March. We are nowhere near financially stable as I have been unemployed for the past 2 years (finishing up my undergrad degree) It hasn't been ideal but he has been my biggest supporter. If you really want to marry someone nothing will stop you and you'll work/figure things out together. I think you may need talk to him about it and figure out how he feels.

If the invites are sent out, it’s pretty close to happening. Is he worried that the WEDDING is going to cost more than you can afford, or he he thinking he’s not financially prepared for the actual marriage?

View Quoted Comment That’s true, thanks I’m working on it

View Quoted Comment Wow, I hope all goes well and congrats love. We’re trying to figure things out now

View Quoted Comment Guess he’s worried about not being financially prepared as time draws closer

View Quoted Comment Thank you. I hope you guys figure things out. I think maybe he wants to be financially stable so he can provide for you. My fiancé was stressed about being able to provide for us and thought he wasn't doing enough and that got him down. Maybe that's his reasoning as my fiancé thought because he was the man of the household that he had to solely provide for us (place to live etc.). I just told him that we are a team, we will do things together and create a life together. Maybe that's also his concern?

View Quoted Comment That he fears he won't be able to provide just like mine fearedm