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Can you have 2 weddings?

Brianna, on February 12, 2019 at 9:55 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 13

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My husband and I already got married and had a very small wedding only 10 people, right before our daughter was born, kind of a shotgun wedding I know. But now that she’s a bit older we want to have a big wedding, with the white dress, shower, reception, the whole lot. I don’t know how to go about it though is it ok to do everything all over? Should we renew vows instead, even though thats not really what we want? I don’t care about it being tacky like people are going to say, any other comments on how to go about doing this would be appreciated❤️

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Vicky · on February 12, 2019 at 10:20 PM
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You can't get married when you're already married. You can renew your wedding vows, however, or you can have a blow-out anniversary party and ceremony reenactment.
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Megan · on February 12, 2019 at 10:22 PM
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You do what you want! I think for the most part it's a vow renewal but who says you can't renew your vows with a big wedding and everything you didn't do orginally!
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Brianna · on February 12, 2019 at 10:29 PM
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Thank you for you comment Vicky! Just curious what do you mean by ceremony re-enactment?
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Brianna · on February 12, 2019 at 10:32 PM
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Thank you for your comment Megan! Thank you for the enthusiasum and encouragement! I know I can’t get married again I just feel like I missed out on all the stuff that comes with it other than getting married lol. But that’s a good idea thank you 😊
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WeddingBliss · on February 12, 2019 at 10:51 PM
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You are going to hear a lot of people on here say that it’s a vow renewal, but you can do whatever you & ur FH wants.
Question - do most people know that you are already married? If so, maybe you would want to give it a bit of a name, so not to confused anyone - like a celebration Wedding ceremony. Just a thought, but the decision is definitely yours.
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Brianna · on February 12, 2019 at 11:14 PM
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Thank you for commenting WeddingBliss! Yes most people do know we’re married, but not that we had any type of ceremony. So for most people, other than very close family, it will be there first time coming to the ceremony. I like your thought of renaming it. Would it still be ok to say our “I do’s” or should we just say our vows, in your opinion?
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Tara · on February 12, 2019 at 11:19 PM
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Yes you can have the big wedding. I recommend you get a loved one to be your mick officiant, since you’re already legally married, there’s no point wasting money on a real officiant.
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on February 12, 2019 at 11:25 PM
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It’s totally ok to have the dream wedding you want. Since you’re already married it would technically be called a vow renewal. You can have the white dress, cake, first dances & anything else your heart desires. ❤️
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WeddingBliss · on February 13, 2019 at 6:47 AM
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I’m in no way an expert... but I think it would be ok to say you “I do”, perhaps, during your “I do’s” say “I still do”. Just a thought, but definitely up to you.
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Martha · on February 13, 2019 at 9:13 AM
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You can call it whatever you want.. wedding or wedding take 2, vow renewal, celebration of marriage. I wouldn’t call it a “re enactment” though, that is kinda taking away the meaning, and it just sounds like a production or something. You just want to say your vows in front of all your friends and family that you didn’t get to do the first time.
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Caytlyn · on February 13, 2019 at 9:24 AM
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Married people can’t get married. Unless you want to get divorced and remarried, no, you can’t have another wedding. You can have a vow renewal. I’m not sure why you think it’s any different or why you’re so against it, but those are your options. You also wouldn’t have a bridal shower since you’re not a bride.
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Jolie · on February 13, 2019 at 9:44 AM
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Yes you can certainly have a bigger wedding but the ceremony won't be the exact wording you had the first time since you are already married. It essentially is a renewal of vows, there isn't really a way around that. You wouldn't need an officiant either since by the state you already have a marriage license so you don't need someone so official. Like someone else said it could be a family member or close friend.
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Cassandra7 · on February 13, 2019 at 12:54 PM
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You can do what you want, but that doesn't mean that what you do will be socially acceptable or polite or tasteful or viewed well by many of those who know you.
Have the big party. Renew the vows, if you like. I would certainly drop the idea of the shower (asking for gifts is not polite), and I would modify the Big White Dress into something less overwhelming--you are a wife and mother, not a blushing bride.
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