Can I leave one of FI's sisters out of my bridal party?

Are there other roles they can fit into.. read a verse, hand out programs, etc without being bridesmaids? Thats a really special role and you want your closest and dearest by your side!

I wouldn't have them as bridesmaids if you aren't close with them. That's just me though. I especially wouldn't want someone who doesn't like me in my bridal party.

They wouldn't be my bridesmaids either. Try sticking with some other role

I wouldn't have any of them in my BP. You said you weren't close to any of them. The BP is generally made up of people you're close to!

If he wants them in the BP they can stand on his side.

Why don't his sisters stand on his side?

Ha, cross-posted with LindseyO.

Agreed with Lindsey. Did that with my first wedding and it was terrible and awkward. Have them do a reading or something

You put who u want. This is your day. My FH has 3 sisters and only one of them will be in my BP and they are all fine with my decision because it's my day and she just happens to be the only one out of the 3 sisters that I could see myself being friends with no matter of my relationship with their brother. You pick who you'd like, not who everyone thinks u should have!

I agree with PP they should stand on his side.

You can have mixed bridal parties like that, it's more common now and pretty cool. I wish I had done it

He wants them in the bridal party, they stand on his side. I find it appalling that he would even ask you to put that sister in your bridal party after what she's done

You're not obligated to include ALL the siblings. I only have two siblings and a huge wedding party, but only one of my siblings is in my wedding party. My FH has three siblings, all of them married, but not all of them are included, either.

You don't want a bridesmaid who's going to be a Negative Nancy around you the entire time.

Your BP is who is nearest to YOU, not who FH wants there. You pick who YOU want. If he wants them so bad, they can stand on his side as his groomswomen

I did. I am not close to her and shes crazy.

Unpopular opinion-- you should include them if it important to your FH. as many people on WW point out, their only obligation is to wear a dress and stand next to you. they are his sisters, so i imagine they will be invited to/involved in things like photos, rehearsal dinner, showers, etc. whether they are in the bridal party or not, so i don't see why it matters if they are in the wedding party.

Agree with the PPs who said his sisters can stand on his side. There is no rule that says since they're female they have to stand on the brides side. Nope. Would NOT do it. I love FH sister but she is on his side.

He chooses his side, you choose yours. I wouldn't want anybody I wasn't close with especially after her doing all that standing next to me.

You are not obligated to include anyone for any reason in your BP. These are supposed to be people who are standing up for you. My best friend included FSILs in her BP instead of friends to appease the groom's family. She later told me she regretted it because she is no closer with the SILs.

I agree this is an awkward situation. You probably have other family members and friends you are close with, and would also like them in the BP. One option is that you can just have a MOH and no BP, and explain that you don't want to hurt anyone's feeling by not choosing them. Your can also say that SIL will be family forever so they don't need to be in the BP & they will be at all the pre-wedding events anyway. I agree with giving the sisters a special role-involved in the ceremony in some way. In our wedding they were even announced and walked in before the BP... come to think about it, there was really no difference b/w siblings and the BP, except I didn't have to force siblings to wear the same outfits haha

So this may not be the hill to die on.

Thanks for all your advice ladies! To Kate's point, she's just generally not a nice person and is disrespectful to him too at times, so I'm don't think a conversation would do much TBH. He doesn't really want her to walk as a bridesmaid either but feels obligated to have his sisters involved somehow since he only has sisters. And not including them in the ceremony at all would definitely create some family drama that we both want to avoid, so his first thought was for them all to be bridesmaids since my sisters who I'm very close to are also part of my bridal party. And I'm pretty sure he doesn't want them standing on his side. He's kinda traditional and wants his closest male friends beside him. We hadn't thought of them playing some other role in the wedding though. But since there's 3 of them, are there any more suggestions about something they can do in the ceremony together? We want to keep the ceremony as short as possible so I think a reading with three people might add too much time (I also want to avoid giving Amy a microphone because who knows what she might say), and I know having them as greeters will not go over well with his family since they wouldn't be "in the wedding"