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Just Said Yes January 2021

Can i leave off fh mothers bff of guest list?

Morgan, on February 12, 2020 at 4:36 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9

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FH and I grew up together and have a similar family friend base. I have a personal problem with one of my future MIL close friends; growing up this individual wasnt terrible (a bit obnoxious) but her husband was very rude and would make rude comments to me (about my weight). I was a child so its not like they were recent comments, but ive never liked these individuals because they basically bullied a child. The question is, should I just invite this couple because the wife is close friends with FH mother and she asked us to invite them or should I not because I genuinely don't want them there?
FH is not pressuring me either way. FH parents are not paying for the wedding.

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Latest activity by Sherry, on February 13, 2020 at 9:00 AM

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null · on February 12, 2020 at 4:40 PM
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If your FH doesn't care if they're there, then I say don't invite them. FH's mother gave us a list of people she wanted invited (not paying for the wedding) and we took one couple off because we didn't want them there. There's no reason you should have to invite them!
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Dedicated May 2020
Allie · on February 12, 2020 at 4:46 PM
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I would probably leave them off. It’s you and your FH big day and if they bring negativity around I wouldn’t have it!
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Private User · on February 12, 2020 at 4:55 PM
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I say don't invite. I think it's rude to be asked to be invited to a wedding anyway. If you don't want them there, don't allow it. Remember, do you really want to pay for their food after how you feel about them?
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Chrysta · on February 12, 2020 at 5:14 PM
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My vote is for NO. What kind of human being bullies a child about their weight?! That fact alone warrants not inviting them to one of the most important days of your life! Add to that the fact your FH is fine with not inviting them, plus the fact his family is not contributing financially to the event. I would respectfully tell your FMIL that it is important for you and FH to be surrounded by people who have loved and supported you throughout your lives, and unfortunately these people did not; and their presence would make you feel uncomfortable.
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VIP October 2020
Samantha · on February 12, 2020 at 6:48 PM
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You are under no obligation to invite them and harassing a child about their weight is inexcusable. It can truly do irreparable damage. You have every right to only have people that you’re comfortable with at the wedding.
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Master May 2021
Cristy · on February 12, 2020 at 7:37 PM
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I would never invite someone who bullied me as a child, no matter who they are friends with.
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Devoted February 2020
Stevie · on February 12, 2020 at 8:47 PM
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If he makes you uncomfortable, then no don't invite him. Save the stress, this is supposed to be your happy day.
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Super October 2020
Leslie · on February 12, 2020 at 11:07 PM
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Nope, never nope nope nope.
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Master September 2019
Sherry · on February 13, 2020 at 9:00 AM
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You aren't required to add anyone to the guest list.
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