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Master October 2020

Can i Just Light My Seating Chart on Fire?

Mandi, on March 2, 2020 at 7:57 PM Posted in Planning 0 4

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I've got 23 RSVPs outstanding. So I'll start contacting them on Wednesday.

I've got 1 person who didnt tell me how many people are coming.
1 person let me know 4 people are coming with her. She's got 2 sons and isnt dating anyone. Just tell me who your bringing.
A groomsman and his wife told us 3 of them are coming... are they bringing the baby or the toddler. Or both and just not telling me?
I've been told I can "Rick Jones & Guest" on my seating chart.
How do I list "Katie Smith & son/s"? If we weren't doing a head table, I could see Mike & Katie Smith family. But I'm not giving up my head table. (I dont care if you think a head table is rude. It's tradition and I'm not breaking it.)
And then there is my favorite RSVP. The maybe. I have 2 maybes. One I get. I do. They live 8 hours away. They don't wanna commit yes or no 4 weeks out. And I'm not gonna get after them for that. But I have another girl who is maybe-ing.
TBH, I plan to round up a bit. If I have 235 people coming, I'll just round up to 240. I'd rather pay for 5 extra plates and not run out.
And I'm cool with leaving a space at a table or two.
But it's just sooo frustrating.
I dont want to leave anybody out.
But at the same time, my guests aren't being helpful.

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Latest activity by Jennifer, on March 3, 2020 at 1:05 PM

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Leslie · on March 2, 2020 at 10:00 PM
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Don’t round up, round down. More likely to have no shows especially with those maybes. And honestly if you don’t name your date, tough luck. They can’t come.
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Kaysey · on March 3, 2020 at 9:57 AM
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My husband and I had a similar issue when were were tracking down those who did not respond to RSVP's. We flat out told those who hadn't responded that we needed an answer by a specific date. We needed to know if they were coming and the names of those who were coming with them. We obviously said it in a nice way but sent out texts messages that said "Hi _______(guest's name), we were getting our final numbers ready for our caterer and venue and noticed we have yet to receive your RSVP. Even though the RSVP date has passed, we still wanted to reach out and get a final answer on if you will be able to celebrate with us. Please get back to us and let us know if you're coming, if you're bringing a plus one and please provide us with their name. If we do not receive a response by ______________ (date), we will unfortunately have to mark you as not attending".

Many wedding guests either forget to send them back or think that they can just decide the day of if they want to go even though they did not respond with the RSVP. By making it clear that you need final numbers, it should whip them into shape and help you get your final numbers. Don't make it harder on yourself by trying to accommodate those who don't know who their plus one is, or if they're coming. My issue was I was too nice to tell someone we needed a straight answer so my husband did it for me, lol.
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Melle · on March 3, 2020 at 11:00 AM
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Ugh I hated this part too! Especially because it’s HARD enough already to actually manage to get everyone seated ok. And then if you’re unsure of someone’s attendance it’s like welp... or if people unexpectedly come then you know what THEY can bring a chair and sandwich aha
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Jennifer · on March 3, 2020 at 1:05 PM
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Light it up and make those people give you definite answers!
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