Can i invite my friends to a Bachelorette when I'm doing a 15-person family only wedding?

It’s your wedding, I say do what you want and what other pp feel comfortable with!

It’s rude to invite people to pre-wedding events who won’t be invited to the wedding and also rude to host your own bachelorette party.

I think you should. I know I would!

I am having a bachelorette outing with friends and they know I am doing an intimate ceremony. In my circle bachelorettes are not much different than going out to dinner and everyone pays their own way. If you do not feel they would not be offended then do it. My friends would celebrate with me regardless of the wedding situation so I say do what you want.

I think that would be fine. Especially with COVID still around I think that most people would be fine and understand.

It’s normally considered rude to invite people to pre-wedding events and not the wedding, but because of COVID I feel like this “rule” goes out the window. I would assume/hope that most people understand the circumstances and would still want to celebrate with you in some way.

Technically, the answer is no since you aren't inviting them to the wedding. That said, a pandemic is a completely different story! Plus, a bachelorette party isn't the same as a bridal shower. Since you're not asking for gifts and everyone pays for themselves, it's not nearly as rude as it would be to invite someone to a shower and not the wedding. Assuming they already know they aren't invited to the wedding (and by now, hopefully they do), you can say something like "even though Covid changed the plans for the wedding, you're important to me and I still want to spend time and celebrate with you" and tell them you'd love to have a ladies' weekend with them. Talk to each one individually and just be honest about the circumstances. I'm sure they'd love to celebrate with you!
As a side note, no, you aren't really "supposed to" host your own bachelorette party since it's supposed to be a thing to celebrate you. Again, since no gifts are involved, it's really not as much of a big deal as hosting your own shower would be. You could also change how you approach it and say that you'd love to include them on the guest list (since the bride is responsible for providing a guest list to the host/s either way).

I see absolutely nothing wrong with that!! I am having a 100 person wedding and I cannot afford to invite everyone from my work.. However, I asked them if they thought it would be rude if I invited them to celebrate my bachelorette party and did not invite them to the wedding and every one of them said of course not!! They would love to party with me and celebrate my wedding and they completely understood that I couldn't afford a 300 person wedding!! Now, if it was a shower I invited them to, amd I expected them to give me gifts, then that is totally different.. However, in this case, I just wanted to celebrate with them, and love them, and party with them, then I see nothing wrong with that, and neither do they!! I say it's your wedding, especially during covid-19 times, there's absolutely nothing wrong with what you want!! You do you!! Congratulations and good luck with everything!!

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I don't believe this rule still applies with what is going on with COVID. People completely understand that you have to cut numbers for the actual wedding because of COVID. As long as it is not expected to bring gifts, it is perfectly fine to still have a bacholerette party with people that can't come to the wedding.

It's 2020 do whatever your heart desires. I think given the circumstances your friends would understand the reason they are not invited to the wedding and will still want to celebrate with you.