Can I invite divorced family members?

...would feel guilty leaving their mother out. She really hasn't been the nicest to my uncle lately (even that is an understatement), but it still feels wrong to me to leave her out. I know she will just cause stress but I still feel guilty because she has always treated me well.

If you want them there invite them. My uncle and his wife got divorced long before I was born and she has still been part of the family for as long as I can remember. I invited her and her new husband and nobody thought twice about it

I think it would definitely be hurtful to her to not invite her. If they both come just sit them at tables far away from each other

I second the idea of invite them if they are important to you.

Both my parents and my FH parents are divorced and we are inviting all the parents and step parents. Also one of my grandfathers got divorced but I'm inviting his wife because she was always there for me growing up.

Don't let divorce get in the way of inviting people.

I will be inviting my divorced cousins. I told both parties and I included they would be sitting on opposites sides of the venue. I told them that I Iove them both and didn’t want to choose between them. They both have remarried and so I made the invite open to their spouses.

It's really up to you. There's no rule against it.

First, I'd make sure it's okay with your uncle. Then, I'd make sure to seat them apart.

If you want them there, invite them. One of my aunts has never actually been my aunt, she was my father's stepsister long before I was ever born and my grandfather and her mother got divorced after only being married a few years. I couldn't imagine getting married without her there though.

Ask your uncle if it would make him uncomfortable. He is your blood relative and therefore should make the decision.

Psh. I am. My aunt, who was married to my actual uncle and divorced him years ago, is coming with her new husband. Even more of a shocker. My dad's ex girlfriend ( who he was with for 10 years after my parents divorced) is also coming with her husband. :-)

I'm inviting my aunt - she and my dad's brother divorced about 10 years ago but we were very close growing up and she still attends all of our "family reunions". everyone can get over it All her children will be there also so she's family bottom line.

Invite them. They'll behave like adults if they come.

Almost every single member of my FH's side of the family is divorced, and some of them are remarried. We plan on only inviting the people who come to the family gatherings and who we have fun with and want to be there. If you two are still really close, then I think it's ok to invite her. If she or your uncle have a problem with one another, then you can just seat them at different tables or at the same table just not next to each other. It shouldn't be a huge deal because it is your day and your wedding, and if you want to invite her then that is that.

I've invited my brother's ex wife and her new husband. She's the mother to my niece and we were always pretty close (she was going to be doing my hair and makeup as she does this for a living but is due to give birth right around the time of the wedding).

I figure people can suck it up for one day so that I can be surrounded by the people I care about who care about me. Just because my brother didn't want her in his life any more doesn't mean I don't want her in mine.

If you want them there invite them. They can chose whether to go or not or to stay apart if they have a problem with it.

Weddings are notorious for bringing together family members who are estranged from each other. It's really not that difficult to avoid someone at a wedding you don't like. They won't sit near each other during the ceremony (by choice), and you can place them across the room from each other at the reception. I doubt that they'll start anything at your wedding. If one of them is just too uncomfortable, they'll leave. However, that's their choice. You really should extend an invite. Failure to do so will suggest that you've picked a side in their fight, and you don't want her to feel that way.

I didn't, but that's because my aunt makes my uncles life a living hell. I didn't want to be responsible for them being in the same room together - and they've been divorced for 15 years!

She is no longer invited over to my grandparents for anything - even if it involves her own children because of the crap she's pulled so that will tell you something.

I am inviting my ex sister in law, and two of my ex husbands cousins. I divorced HIM not the family. I love his family and they love me. Friendship just doesn't end when a marriage does.

My FH has a similar situation with his "grandma" he grew up with her being his grandma, and he feels it wasn't his choice that his grandpa divorced her. She still comes to some family functions since her daughter (with FH's grandpa) is still blood family as much as "grandma" is family too

The best way to deal with this is ask the blood relative 1st sure they may feel uncomfortable but not disrespected. I am a newlywed and my neice by this marriage invited her my husband x. Didn't say anything to us until after the RSVP. This Person doesn't live in our State and or come to family functions. So I feel hurt overlooked. Would have helped to at least FYI before not after. I will still feel uncomfortable but not hurt.