Can i have my dj play my music?

I don't think it's rude at all. I told my dj to not play certain artists and we requested certain songs to be played

This is probably going to vary by DJ. The DJ we used was very clear that while he takes a handful of must play/do not play songs and obviously the spotlight dance songs, he does not allow couples to create hours worth of playlists because his specialty is reading the crowd in the moment and changing the music to match if needed. He also had 20 years of wedding experience behind him with all incredible reviews so I didn’t want to limit him in any capacity.

I would ask your DJ.

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I definitely agree. It's best to have a must play/do not play list.

My DJ asked me for a spotify playlist to get to know what music we are interested in! You should discuss with your DJ

My dj allowed 10 must plays, 10 play if times, and a do not play list. But not picking every single song. He wants to create a vibe and adjust as necessary.

I don’t think it’s necessarily bad to do but, at this point why even bother hiring a DJ? Do you have a friend or relative who may enjoy MCing and then you can just put on your playlist?

It would vary by DJ whether they are comfortable with this. My SIL and her H wanted to do something similar and they were able to find a guy who essentially acted as MC, had music and equipment, but didn't actually do any of the "curating" of the playlists. They provided the lists and he just executed. Definitely not everyone would do that though, so just check!

Why have a dj if you're gonna select the songs. Dj reads the crowd knows what to do. Will everyone want to just hear ya'll playlist all night?

We gave ours a list with music for each segment (cocktail hour, dinner, special dances, reception) and he stuck to a bit of it and played some out of order but it was ok.
We asked first because we had a lot of Ukrainian music we wanted played and not a lot of top 40s type music.

While you can give the DJ a list, it kind of defeats the purpose of spending the money if you’re not letting him/her do their job. Yes, give them a few songs you want played. But don’t monopolize the whole night with love songs. Not only will it be boring for your guests, it won’t allow the DJ to have creative liberties with your reception to get the mood in the right direction. If you really just want to pick all the songs for your reception, cancel the DJ and play a song list over some good speakers.

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I second this. You can rent or buy some good speakers for less than the cost of a wedding DJ.

My FH and I started creating a wedding playlist and the task got arduous quickly. Keep in mind you are talking about likely 5+ hours of music. DJ's not only play music, but they read the room, create good transitions between songs, help make announcements that keep your guests and reception timeline in order, provide professional sound equipment (and sometimes lights and other add ons as well), and add variety to your wedding playlist.

In addition to picking out songs for our first dance and parent dances, we are giving our DJ a handful of songs we really want played and some other songs we like. Like any event we can make requests at the wedding too, which to me is better than trying to pick out all the songs ahead of time. New songs will be released between now and our wedding and there are songs I really like now that will likely get overplayed on the radio and soon I'll be tired of them. Having some suggestions, without an entire outline of music for the whole evening, is best IMO.

I had this same dilemma and we ended up not going with a DJ. I want to curate my wedding and have 10 hours of music. So we’ll be getting speakers and someone to play each playlist. They are all labeled. We have a little bit of something for everyone and it was fairly simple.

Totally normal. Our DJ has us making our playlists (ceremony, cocktail hour, reception, etc.) He has given us multiple lists that he's used at previous weddings along with most requested songs and more. Super helpful in making our list and even has us making a "do not play playlist."