Can i bring my kids?

I hear you, I am bracing myself for this to happen once I send out invites.

My MOH even had people asking if they could bring their kids to the bridal shower.

I think some people just aren’t used to kid-free wedding so they assume 🤷🏻‍♀️ I personally have been to what is now nearing 50 weddings and not a single one was no-kids

View Quoted Comment Okay but if I specified no kids why / how would you assume there’s kids?

View Quoted Comment Did you only put it on the website? It’s possible they scrolled over it or haven’t looked!

Hahahaha AH! That would drive me insane. Our wedding includes kids but in your case it's on your website and I'm assuming RSVP cards & invites?

I am having kid free wedding- minus the wedding party children( 3 & the 2 “Flower Fairies” & their older brother & “Gringotts Ring Security”). We will find some way to include that on the website, and invitations.
Good luck! And for letting me know what I’m going to be looking forward to! Lol

Yep, same issue over here.... Unfortunately it is what it is... I want all my guest to have a kid free night to put their hair down and have some fun. Plus I don't need anything to get broken or messed up. And their are some parents that feel like oh they are with family some one will keep an eye on them. Nope we aint even gonna have that issue... Sorry not sorry

🤷🏻‍♀️ At least they were nice about it.
Honestly very few people look at the website and even then many that do are just there to get a specific piece of information, and don’t bother reading the rest. That’s just how it goes. We had people ask what hotels to stay at and where we were registered too, despite that being on the website which was included both with the save the dates and the invites.

View Quoted Comment Nope. On the invitation it was addressed to Mr & Mrs ____.

View Quoted Comment I’m right there with you!

View Quoted Comment That is correct!

Even when they see "adults only affair" or something similar, there will always be people who ask you to make an exception for their little Johnny or Susie. I can tell you that until I started planning my own wedding, as a guest, when I was invited to a wedding, a lot of important things never occurred to me. Like the cost of a wedding. Often times I don't think guests are trying to be difficult when they ask if they can bring their kids. It just hasn't occurred to them that each kid who attends is going to cost the bride and groom $XX, and maybe that's not in their budget. Or guests think maybe they can save money on a babysitter, if they could bring little Johnny to the wedding. Some people just can't understand why you wouldn't want their little bundles of joy to interrupt your ceremony, or put their hands in the cake as it sits on it's table at the reception.

So, even though I find it very rude to ask if you can bring your kids when I've made it clear that it's adults only, I try to take a breath, step back, and craft the most polite response I can come up with.

Then I go into the ladies room and scream into a towel!!

We are only allowing kids that are standing up and anyone travelling from out of town with kids from hours away, otherwise everyone else must be 18 and over

Maybe she has a couple of weddings this summer and couldn’t remember off the top of her head if your wedding was the adults only one. I think it’s easy to forget that our guests have other events going on at the same time and won’t remember the details as clearly as those of us planning the wedding.

Certainly, but considering, some of our best friends are parents whose kids we are close with, we don't have a problem with it.

In my experience NO ONE looks at the website. We have people asking us questions all day long and when we respond, "it's on the website," people act like we have majorly inconvenienced them by COMPILING ALL INFORMATION IN ONE EASY TO LOCATE PLACE. Can you tell I'm about to lose it?!

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...I feel this so much.

View Quoted Comment Gringotts ring security!❤❤ I love that!!

View Quoted Comment Thanks! “Harry Potter” Theme, lol

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FH and I have gone back and forth about having an adult-only wedding. He wants it more but the issue is our families are all out of town or state. I don't think it's fair to ask them to travel across the country for our wedding, pay for flights and accommodations and child care on top of that. I think I have my one sister convinced to leave the younger girls at home and just bring the older one.