Can I add another bridesmaid?

Yes, I think you should ask her

If she knows that everyone else was asked months ago it might seem like an afterthought. If she was that close to you, you would've asked from the start.

I would be really offended if someone asked me to be part of their BP months after everyone else had been asked.

No! I asked one girl later on. I realized I'd want her at all the bridal related events .

I definitely don't want her to feel like an afterthought. She knows the 2 maids of honor were asked, because they're my sisters. But I didn't tell her about the other 3 bridesmaids, and she doesn't know any of the other 3 girls. So I'm not sure if she knows I asked all my bridesmaids yet. If she knows, she didn't find out from me.

Why didn't you ask her the first time around? Just curious

When did you ask your bridal party? If it was recent, I would think it was ok but if it was months ago and she knows that, it would make me feel a little weird that you thought of me later.

D&A2017, I honestly don't know why I didn't think to ask her the first time around. It was a brain fart! I've really been kicking myself over it.

Mimitrue, I did ask a few months ago. I didn't tell her I asked my bridal party yet. She just knows for sure I asked my 2 sisters to be my 2 maids of honor.

I would ask her and say how you were finalizing details so she doesn't feel like an after thought

Personally I wouldn't be offended if I was added on after other bridesmaids--I'd be excited, because I love weddings and being involved in them.

Others feel differently, I guess it's a know-your-person.

I'd feel better being asked as an 'afterthought' then not being asked at all, as long as it was genuine and not just so I could 'help' the bride or fill someone else's shoes.

I wouldn't be offended if I was asked after other bridesmaids. I took about 4 months to ask all of my bridesmaids and I only have 3. I wanted to ask them all in person and my sister lives a few states away.

I say go for it, but don't make a big deal out of it.

I would not be offended, but I can see how others would be. I agree with @FutureMrsB, it's a know your person situation. If you think it would be ok with her, I say go for it!

I would ask her and explain how much it means to you that she be involved

Ask her! People sometimes take their time to build their bridal party. We added on another groomsman a month after we decided on the rest.

I wouldn't be offended at all. You should ask her

Okay, thanks, everyone!! I am going to ask her! :-)

I have a problem with asking, firing, and replacing BMs. I don't have any issue with asking a MOH first, asking a BM a month later, asking a second BM two months after that, and asking a third BM four months after that. I don't believe you have to invite all of the candidates to a dinner and give them childish ring pops, a bad poem, and peer pressure. I think you can build your wedding party -- with the caveat that there are no replacements and the party will be determined six months to a year prior to the wedding. I do think you need to set a mental deadline, and with a little more than 10 months to go, I think you're fine.

Thank you, Centerpiece!

I don't see it as an issue. My FH has asked 4 of his 6 guys but still needs to ask the others. I say ask her.