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Savvy September 2018

Can ask about the bachelor party?

julia, on August 11, 2018 at 8:47 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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My fiancé returns today from his week-long bachelor party trip, and although I’m not really concerned that he cheated / crosses any lines, I am generally curious about the shenanigans that went on. FH and I have always been very open/explicit with one another and we dish about the crazy things our friends do all the time, but I’m wondering if this time he would be insulted/annoyed if I asked “so, what’d y’all get up to?”. I don’t care about strippers - we’ve been to strip clubs together and my sister is an exotic dancer, so that stuff doesn’t bother me at all. My curiosity is part just “really, how was your trip?” but also TBH “so, how far did you go?”... I’m not having a big bachelorette party because my bridesmaids are broke and across the country, so I’m a little jealous that he even did this big trip, but I also wanted him to have a fun trip on his own. I don’t want it to seem like I’m trying to interrogate him - did anyone else ask their beaus about their bach party? How did it go?

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Latest activity by AQuixoticBride, on August 12, 2018 at 5:34 AM

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Samantha · on August 11, 2018 at 9:15 PM
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I think it would be weirder not to ask if he was gone for a whole week! I usually get curious and ask my husband about what he did even if he was just gone a few hours, so I definitely got curious after his bach party lol. I don't think there's anything wrong with asking how far he went either, it doesn't have to be a trust thing but can be more of a curiosity thing, like you said.
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Kimberly · on August 11, 2018 at 9:58 PM
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I think its nothing wrong with asking. Maybe not too much detail though. With my fiancé I really didn't care. Since I know him and his friends well I already knew what to expect. So any answer I get wouldn't be much of a surprise
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David & Tara · on August 12, 2018 at 12:02 AM
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You're getting married... you should be comfortable enough to ask and he should be comfortable enough to tell. If either of you aren't, you should probably have a conversation about that.
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Judith · on August 12, 2018 at 1:53 AM
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You can ask in general, express interest as you always do. It cannot be an inquisition, pressure or a demand for detailed information.
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SoonToBeMrs. · on August 12, 2018 at 4:32 AM
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I don't see anything wrong with asking. I'm sure he would ask about your week. ☺️
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AQuixoticBride · on August 12, 2018 at 5:34 AM
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We had our bachelor/bachelorette party together, so no need to ask what he got up to. I of course, asked if he had fun and he told me about stuff that happened when we weren't together (joint party doesn't mean we were joined at the hip). I really don't see how this would be different than asking about any night out or trip he had.
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