Can anyone sympathize with me? Bridesmaid dress size issue...

My bridesmaid wanted a size that zipped but her beer belly stuck out but she said she'd lose weight. Uh no not happening. I told her no and she listened.

100 days is not long enough to lose 6 inches

6 inches is pretty significant. It sounds like that is two sizes to small. I don't think it's enough time. She will have to get some serious alterations as well some of the tightest spanx.

If she's not going to listen to you, and if she doesn't fit into her dress then she won't get to stand with you at your wedding. Make that clear to her and hopefully she will think about it and either loose the weight or buy the dress that fits.

Yikes! Unless she is planning on sliming down AND using some undergarments that help to reduce her frame...I would say that is too risky. Sure we all want to lose weight or gain muscle in much needed areas before a wedding (be it the bride or the bridesmaid) but I think that is really pushing it.

Tell her it is easier/less expensive to take in a dress than to let it out.

Explain to her that while you support her weight loss goal, it is not appropriate for her bridesmaid dress that will be in your wedding to be her inspiration for that goal. She needs to get the dress in her actual size and have it taken in if needed. It is very inconsiderate of her to chance this on your day. Hopefully you can explain it kindly to her and she will comply.

My sister pulled that shit, but ordered her dress 2 sizes too small! As soon as she left, I called DB and had them change it to her size. IF it has to be taken in, I'll pay for the alterations. Bitch thing for me to do? Sure, I'll own that. I am not stressing about her damn dress not fitting. She did the same thing with her wedding dress when she got married and it was all they could do to let it out enough. The poor girl couldn't breathe all day.

What Nancy said!!

Ohhh that is rough. I feel her pain as I was planning on losing weight for my wedding and have in fact actually gained a pound since I bought my dress. I was SOOO sure i would lose weight. I would just try to explain to her it's always so much easier to take a dress in than it is to let a dress out. Hopefully it all works out for you guys!

This is a tough topic. I guess if that's all she's willing to get, she'll have to pay for alterations later if she doesn't lose weight.

I had one friend who gained a bit, and her bridesmaid dress split at the wedding! I think they even had to use tape to fix it up. It was the back of the dress, so it didn't matter too much for photos, but she was certainly embarrassed. Some people learn the hard way, I guess.

Oh lol, I like what Lizz did. Can you call and change the size??? I would totally do that.

My MOH had requested to order her dress a size smaller but that was in January, so a good 7 months before my wedding. And she had plenty of time to loose the weight.

I have at least one, if not two who are thinking they want to order a smaller dress size than what they should. The woman at the bridal shop said it best to me "every person that comes in here is going to lose weight, and is currently on a diet...." It's tough, and I can understand their reasoning, but we have to deal in reality, folks. We'll be ordering ours in the next couple weeks, we'll see how it pans out.

Wow! My MOH actually ordered hers in a size too big, just in case lol.

6 inches is SIX DRESS SIZES in bridal in almost all cases. That equates to roughly 60 pounds...I would just tell her "Look, I appreciate and support your goals but just be prepared to pay a hefty alterations bill if you need to have this dress made to fit for the wedding." Losing 20 pounds a month is not realistic or healthy.

Yes..this just happened to me. We ordered our online (they couldn't try them on) so we went with what sizes they usually wear. One of my bridesmaid insisted on ordering a 4 when she is no smaller than a 6...well no shit it didn't fit, and now HER size is out of stock. Praying for a miracle.

Edit: Lizz, you're my hero. I wish I had done that.

This sort of happened to me... BM had a baby in January and was nursing when she ordered... She ordered her regular size rather than the size her boobs actually are right now. The dress will not zip all the way up in the back. We have 3 months til the wedding and she just stopped nursing about a week ago, so I am praying those puppies go down!

A different BM ordered a size that I actually think will be too big in my opinion but she can get that taken in. So much smarter to do it that way!

She had absolutely no right to use your wedding as the motivation for her weight loss goal. I'd be upset, and I don't get riled by a lot of the drama that accompanies weddings. The amount of weight she needs to lose to fit into a dress with a six inch gap in the back is significant. She's going to do that in three months?

I would call David's Bridal and have them change the size. Seriously, she can have it taken in if she is successful. Unbelievable.

It's better to size up then have a dress that is too small. I'd tell her that you prefer her getting the one that fits, because it's easier to alter a dress to make it smaller than to make it larger, if that makes sense?