Can a responsible ring bearer carry real rings?

Why wouldn't it be okay??

You said yourself he is responsible. Do whatever you want. It's your wedding

He's 6, even a "responsible" 6 year old can lose things or make poor choices. Personally, I wouldn't risk it.

I've just heard from her and lurked on here a bit to "never" give real rings. My godson (NOT the RB) would fling them around. Which is why he's not the RB. He's 3.

I say you do what you want to do. There's not a whole lot of risk walking down the isle for 30 seconds..

Do what you want, but our RB is my favorite little boy in the universe, and I trust him completely. However, I also knew he was 6 and didn't want that pressure on him or the extra stress on me.

I think it would be ok. You said he's responsible so I would trust him.

My RB nephew will be carrying them up in a box. The only time he's even gonna have them is down the aisle and standing in front. He's a responsible obedient boy. I'm not worried at all.

It has to do with your comfort level and you being ok if something did happen. My FH is having his 9 year old daughter as his Best Girl instead of a Best Man and he wants her to carry & keep up with our rings. She can't remember if she lays something down in one room where it's at by the time she gets to the next room...

I never understand why you would have a ring bearer if he's not going to hold the rings. Too irresponsible? Then he shouldn't be ring bearer. Too young? Then he shouldn't be ring bearer. OP, in your case, if you trust him, do it. All you have to do is give the pillow to someone you trust to give to him immediately before he walks down the aisle. How could he possibly lose it if he's just carrying it down the aisle?

No I wouldn't. You may have the whole group looking for a ring that fell off!

My RB was 8 when we got married. I tied the rings to the pillow and gave the whole thing to him to carry. He held onto it from when we got in the limo at my parents' until he handed them to the BMs at the wedding. It was just him and his sister in a limo full of responsible adults, several of whom are related to him, so I wasn't worried about it.

It might be ok, but why risk it?

No. This is what a Best Man is for.

I don't think it really matters that the ring bearer has the actual rings tied to his pillow, so I wouldn't even bother with it. It honestly sounds risky, and I'd rather it be smooth and simple and have the BM holding on to them in his pocket.

I have been wondering about this, too. I didn't even realize it was all fake ones until I joined WW! Our RB will be 6 and he has been an RB before so he knows the drill. I, too, would have the pillows handed to them as they walk down the aisle and delivered to the BM (conveniently the RB's father) as soon as they get there. But I also agree with PP's that this might be unnecessary stress. Interested to see the variety of opinions on this issue!

If you are comfortable with it, then go ahead. It sounds like he will have the rings in his possession for all of 45 seconds it will take him to walk down the aisle.

OP, if someone could hold the pillow until it's time for him to walk down the aisle, and then he gives that person the pillow at the front, then I think it's ok. On a side note, my DH was best man in a wedding and he totally lost the wife's ring and spent the reception looking for it. The bride had to use her engagement ring as the ring in the ceremony. Age =\= responsibility.

I think it's a personal choice really. Our ring bearer walked the rings down, it was tied on tightly to a stuffed bear, but his father held onto the bear until it was time for him to walk. He clung so tightly to that bear it was adorable and handed it right to the groomsmen and then walked over to his mom. He is 4 and everything was fine for us.