California November brides?

Goodluck with everything, you're only 2 weeks away!

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I know! We are hopeful! So close but feels so far! Lol

Our wedding was 11/07/20, we planned for a historically hot day for months in Murrieta and it ultimately RAINED. But luckily we had an indoor option and backup seating charts to accommodate the last minute change (indoor was smaller so we had to fit more people to a table). It was a lot of work but was PERFECT and worth all the planning we put into it! Plan for rain if it's outdoors.

Our wedding was supposed to be on 11/21/20 outdoors at a Huntington Beach Hotel. This was already a change in venue that took place a month prior due to concerns about the Covid infection risk having an event indoors. We ended up postponing this wedding one weekend before it happened due to the concerns of the rapidly rising COVID numbers and the new travel advisory for those coming from out of state and country to quarantine for 14 days. It’s been a roller coaster trying to plan this wedding and we never made it to the finish line. I think a word of wisdom would be, if you have any doubt whatsoever that your wedding might not happen, even when family and friends encourage you that it will work out, take your own initiative and make the hard decision early to cancel or postpone it to a date you are quite certain would work. My experience was probably the most stressful and anxiety-ridden one of my life. I will need awhile to recover from the damage this did to my mental health.

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I know what are the chances! Congrats! We are having ours in Temecula and luckily our venue has an open covered inside/outside option for us to hold both at in case of weather. We are 11/28 and hoping just to be able to have the wedding after already having to postpone once so anxiety is at an all time high with all the announcements coming out.

Literally broke down crying last night as I told my mom “We didn’t want ANY of this.... I’m just trying to make do with what we can have...” She was saying that no one knows what’s going on and if they’re invited or not and that I should’ve invited this uncle and why are my friends invite but they didn’t get to invite any of their friends.... it’s overwhelming.

My wedding is in Daly City, CA on November 22. We are saying our vows on the coast then planning a backyard reception at a family members house with just family and our bridal party. Our county restrictions just changed today and I feel it is WAY too late to cancel.... Going to socially distance as best we can and wear masks for sure but if people don’t feel comfortable they are welcome to stay home. Also if they have felt any symptoms or have not been feeling well we asked that they kindly stay home.

View Quoted Comment That's great news! I'm sure you spoke with a lot of venues like I did, we also had to post pone our wedding date 2x, before we decided to change venue location all together, anyways, the temecula area venue owners didn't sound like they were going to shut down their operations again, now that they know about Covid-19 spread and precautions. I had one owner tell me he knew his constitutional rights lol I have no doubt your date will proceed without a hiccup!

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I completely understand what you are talking about... We literally were about to pack up in March and go to the rehearsal the next day when our venue shut down, completely shattered. Then we picked November because we were sure it was far enough out... Now our venue is completely booked for 2021 and we can't wait over ANOTHER year to finally have our wedding, its just not feasible to put our life on hold for that long. And our venue/vendors are not doing refunds... so how do I just walk away from over 30,000 dollars I've invested in the venue and vendors and never have the wedding I have been envisioning this whole time and have everything bought/paid for. I was feeling better once we got to June/July/August and seeing weddings happening and then of course with my luck everything is turning south 11 days before our new date. The PTSD from the first postponement is setting in and we are just trying to make it until the wedding.

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I completely understand.... I was a mess this weekend crying and feeling depressed that it was falling apart all over again. We've had to make sure and reconfirm with all our guests again that they are still coming because we make our final payment today with our venue...

This whole thing is so overwhelming and I feel like people (besides brides) don't truly understand the emotional stress, especially with daily news announcements causing even more anxiety. Then you see riots and protests gathering which makes it even worse because all these people can gather but your wedding is hanging by a thread

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We are hopeful! but its so nerve wrecking with all the news headlines and everything. Haha I don't think my nerves will calm down until its the day of and I'm in my dress lol

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Wow, I'm sorry to hear that! This isn't what planning a wedding is suppose to feel like. Would your venue/vendor still allow you to postpone it again? I know it's not ideal, but it's better than throwing your money away. These coming few weeks will be brutal in terms of COVID numbers so this is an act of God.

One of the things we struggled getting was our marriage license in time for our catholic ceremony. We couldn't find any county that had availabilities just to give us license. Unusually enough, they were available to grant us a license only if we agreed to do the entire wedding ceremony via zoom with them and be legally married. We had to opt for this route last week in order for the catholic church to at least perform a marriage validation ceremony which looks a lot like a wedding ceremony, without signing of papers at the end as we would already be legally married. Little did we know that we wouldn't get to have our ceremony in front of our family and friends anyway and we were married by some stranger over zoom with another stranger as our witness. We have accepted that we must move on with our lives and not allow COVID to stop us from building our future together.

We will eventually have the grand celebration sometime next year, God willing, when COVID is under control. I might be super pregnant by then and it's not something I dreamed of at this point. It's just an unprecedented time and we will definitely have an unusual memory of our nuptials. But the silver lining is that we know are friends and family are safe from possibly contracting the virus from our event. That's worth the sacrifice of having the event we intended.

With that said, I hope that you will find peace whichever way your event goes. Just take comfort in knowing that your health is the most important thing. Your vendors will make allowances, I'm sure, because of these uncertain times. All of my vendors and venue have been incredibly understanding and flexible. Though we didn't get a refund, we know that we can still use that credit to celebrate in the future our union and also the end of this horrible Coronavirus one day!

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I know right! They would allow us to postpone but it would be in 2022 and that's if all my vendors are available then...

Exactly! We want to start a family and I'm not sure when that's going to happen so the thought of not being able to wear my dress is a sad thought. :/

We are hopeful and know its not really in our control. It will definitely be a story one day I'm sure we will all laugh about... maybe haha

My wedding is Saturday in Fountain Valley at a church and now it has to be held outside. The lighting is going to suck...

Our wedding was scheduled for 11/29/2020 in Temecula! Back in June, I had a feeling that the flu season + COVID was not going to be good... In September when we were debating whether or not to order our formal invitations, we decided to postpone. My sister had put in my mind that I would not be happy with the wedding photos seeing all the face masks and what not + I am a huge overthinker, and I did not want to risk anyone's health over our wedding. We were able to postpone to 12/2021. We were lucky that we had no trouble rescheduling with our venue and vendors, except for one vendor who charged us extra to reschedule. That was annoying but somewhat understandable and anticipated. It was a tough decision to postpone and to postpone for an additional year... However, it was fortunate that we had decided to privately marry back in 12/2019 just to have all our paperwork done and out of the way. I think doing so really took a huge load of stress and nerves off our shoulders. I'm sure you have already but if you haven't, my advice would be to discuss options with your venue if you are worried about your big day. In September when I talked to my venue they provided quite a few options on how to proceed. One option that I liked was they offered letting us have an extremely intimate ceremony on our original date and rescheduling our larger ceremony/reception gathering to next year. So you basically get two weddings. We didn't go with that option since, as I mentioned, we officially married already. I hope this helps, and good luck with your wedding! I hope everything turns out beautifully.

Side note: as I was typing all this out, I saw some of your comments/replies. I am so sorry for what you're going through and having to postpone to 2022 if you do postpone! I was worried about that too since our venue was already getting booked for 2021 back in 2018/2019... I totally get your stress in having to start your family later than planned. We also had to discuss starting our family later than we wanted since we postponed. I wanted to just cancel the wedding since we technically already married anyways, but I really can't let go of all our deposits! So I totally get your pain, stress, and frustrations. I really hope it works out for you and if you do have to postpone, hopefully, an availability comes up for you in 2021.

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I feel your pain! But the bright side is your still going to be able to have it and I'm sure it will turn out beautiful!

View Quoted Comment I feel your pain. My wedding is Nov 28, small, outdoor, and we had to be very selective and only invite representatives from local households and local friends in order to keep it small amd socially distanced. Do NOT receive that burden of guilt and stress from your family or anyone else! None of this is your fault and all any of us can do is our best in this pandemic world. Remember it is YOUR day. Invite who you can from who YOU want and let everyone else know they are not less important if they can’t come in person. It’s just the situation we have right now. Be strong. You and your partner coming together is what really matters.

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Thank you!! Yes we are hopeful and just ready to get on with our lives haha

It's nice to hear from all of you to know we are not alone in this hahah

View Quoted Comment Seriously feeling you! I’m having to take time each day to ground myself, be still, meditate and release stress from my body and mind. We can’t control what’s happening, and that’s the hardest thing. But we are going to be okay. Whatever adjustments we have to make, we have to remember what really matters is that uniting with our partner. And that WILL happen. My wedding is Nov 28, outdoors and we’ve been having a cold snap and the threat of rain and bridesmaids potentially not being allowed to come because of restrictions, the threat of another lockdown.. it goes on and on. But we WILL make it through. We have to put that positive energy out so we can receive it back in the manifestation of what we need!

View Quoted Comment If you don’t mind me asking, which hotel in Huntington Beach? Ours is in Hilton, we postponed our May 2nd wedding and moved to January 23rd but until now Hilton wants us to wait before deciding to go forward or not. It’s very disappointing. They are holding our money hostage. All the excitement are fading away.