California June 2021 Weddings - Yay or Nay?

Not a Summer bride, but a Spring (April) 2021 California bride here! First, I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Those are never easy, but I'm glad to hear that you and your husband are continuing to fight for the family you want. There is so much courage and strength in that and I absolutely commend you for it. Second, an actual response! Given the history of the past year and restrictions and all that for our state, I don't think things will be opened up that much by June. I wouldn't be surprised if things don't really start to properly open up again until after everyone has had the chance to get vaccinated. I think Fall is still a bit early to expect any sort of change, but a late Winter date might be better.

FH and I will be going through with our wedding on 4.24.2021. We already plan to live stream it, so if it comes down to it we can just have the wedding party and immediate family there and have all of the guests attend virtually for the ceremony and then do a big reception once all restrictions are lifted. I'd rather wait for them to all be gone than sit around planning and postponing and planning and postponing again.

I'm so sorry for your loss!

My FH and I postponed to June 12th, 2021. My venue has been completely closed down since last March and will not open until we're out of the tiered system, so I really don't know if we're going to pitch a tent in my MOH's backyard or what, but I don't want to reschedule again.

My FH thinks that with Governor Newsom facing a recall he's going to loosen restrictions as the spring progresses, but I don't know.

I'm so sorry you are going through all this. I can relate to your situation somewhat. We canceled our May 30, 2020 wedding but then my mom was diagnosed with cancer just 10 days before so we ended up eloping on our original date. We tentatively put June 12, 2021 on the calendar for our "redo" wedding/celebration, as we were able to line up all our vendors for that day, but obviously we are not on track to have a safe, mask-free celebration then so are needing to change the date yet again. I'm 35, my husband is 38, and we wanted to start trying for a baby after marriage but put it off due to the pandemic and postponed celebration because I didn't want to be 8-9 months pregnant or immediately postpartum in June. At this point, we feel like we cannot delay any longer, so are actively trying to get pregnant so I feel really apprehensive scheduling more than 6-7 months out. We are in New Hampshire.

I have really mixed feelings about Covid's future. I feel like a late summer or fall wedding is possible if Americans hold the course and stick with masking, social distancing, and avoiding social gatherings, and vaccine production, distribution, and administration keep ramping up on a similar pace. But I worry that people will get complacent and won't keep up with all of the precautions (and governors relaxing restrictions are not going to help), that not enough people will actually get vaccinated, and that new variants will make the virus more difficult to control. So I feel like it would be absolutely possible have a "normal" wedding in August, September, or October if Americans just followed this thing through to the finish line, but there are enough entitled, selfish, reckless people out there that I'm worried all the progress we have been making will go out the window and we'll still be a similar position a year from now.

Originally I wanted to push our date out to 2022 because I honestly didn't think things would improve enough by now, but our vendors wouldn't let us, so now I feel like we are in a similar spot as last year and I'm feeling disappointed all over again. Just last night we got a list of summer/fall dates available from our venue. I thought I would feel much more hopeful about it, especially with vaccines ramping up and some models predicting we could achieve herd immunity by then, but I honestly still feel very anxious. I am tired of having a timeline that is based on fantasy, and all of the anticipation I feel about whatever date we set is apprehension and nervousness, not excitement. I wish we could just wait until the situation improves and then just pick a date a few months out and have it all come together, without having to constantly throw the goal line down 6-18 months ahead and trying to predict how things will be by then.

I don't have much advice, but just want you to know you are not alone. I'm sorry you've had such a difficult past year and hope things turn for the better for you soon.

Thank you. Right now the only date all of our vendors have available is September 11th (can't imagine why that date might be unpopular) so we are considering rescheduling for then. If we got pregnant right now then I'd at least be only 6-7 months along then, which is still more than I'd prefer to be, but doable. But I find myself starting to feel excited about actually having a wedding celebration and then feeling anxious about getting pregnant, or the reverse, so there are a lot of rollercoaster emotions involved. It stinks not to be able to feel like I can look forward to both of those things.

Part of me is just hoping we reschedule for September and can actually have the celebration we want and either 1) we get pregnant just 2-3 months before and can "reveal" it to our guests as a big thing to celebrate in lieu of not actually getting married that day or 2) I'm not at all pregnant by then and can actually enjoy the drinks we are paying for, but we get pregnant right afterwards and we can just focus on becoming parents and not having to worry about two things at once.